Just wanted to come back here with an update in case anyone is watching the thread.
I saw a private meno specialist today through a scheme at work ('Peppy', i think a lot of big employers have bought into it) and it was excellent.
Working from current NICE and British Meno Society guidance.
HRT is not contraindicated for migraine. GP is getting muddled up with contraceptive pill, where combined pill is definitely contraidicated for migraine with aura (I was on it for years, and felt unwell the whole time!). But the hormone preparation is differnet, eg HRT won't stop you getting pregnant, so it's not the same clinical guidnce for HRT vs pill.
The stroke and high blood pressure risk needs to be considered however the initial prescription would be transdermal HRT, which entails no increase to your baseline risk of stroke. If you have a risk, it isn't made worse by transdermal HRT, it just stays the same.
Prozac can be used for anyone who is completely contraindicated for HRT. It will only help with night sweats, not other symptoms. It will leave you feeling blank emotionally. Obviously it's an amazing drug which helps people every day, but this isn't the way to use it. I read on google it can actually have adverse effects and change brain structures in undesirable ways for non-depressed patients. Depressed patients also get changes in brain structures, but they are different changes - ie different areas grow/shrink in depressed people rather than not-depressed people. How weird is that?
So I'm getting a report and will go back to GP armed with the info and will be asking for Everol sequential patches. They are out of stock everywhere so I'll just have to join the bun fight. In the meantime will be looking at upping my phytooestrogens in my diet, and taking isoflavone supplements. Apparently Promensil has a bit more scientific underpinning than other brands, but each to their own.
Hope this is helpful, gang.