Can peri symptoms come and go? Is uncontrollable rage one of them??

[CityDweller]

I'm 45 and have just started putting 2-and-2 together that symptoms I've been experiencing on and off for the past 5 years might be peri...

I had my last DC 6 years ago and then about 6 months later my periods returned and I felt like I was going through puberty again: Skin was awful, PMT awful, really up and down. Periods returned, but irregularly (was always like clockwork before). I also had night sweats, which I put down to just being too tucked up in bed (I have to be really warm to fall asleep). I became quite ragey and a bit of a shouty mum , which I put down to undiagnosed PNT. I was quite unhappy for a while, but it got better as DC2 got a bit older and I went back to work. I do still sometimes lose my patience with the DC, but that happens far less as they get older and less fucking irrational

I haven't had a night sweat for ages (at least three years) now, but my periods are still irregular and I still get quite ragey right before my period. I completely lost my shit at DH last month - like properly screaming at him - and I really have no idea where it came from! It was quite scary. I felt completly unhinged while it was going on, but fine afterwards...

So I suppose I'm wondering whether the bouts of rage I've had now and then over the past 5 years really are just down to being rubbish at dealing with the irrationality of young children or whether it's peri? I hadn't really made a connection until recently... I don't think I have any other symptoms other than irregular periods and (just very recently) the odd wave of anxiety (but that could be down to all manner of other things).

I was a raving lunatic prior to HRT. Flying off the handle at the slightest think, shrieking one minute & sobbing the next. The rage was unreal! As was the anxiety. No hot flushes at all at that point just irregular periods, sometimes two in a month, sometimes missing one.

HRT was a lifesaver. I wish I had spoken to the Dr sooner.

I get uncontrollable rage. I’m learning to manage it with CBT as I can’t take HRT.

Thank you both for making me feel like less of a monster.

It can be to do with peri but after my pregnancy I found that amazingly all my physical period issues such as cramps, heavy bleeding etc stopped BUT my emotions went into overdrive and I can be an angry irritable mess just before and during the early days of a period .
You should ask your gps opinion

I have been very full of rage op.
I'm the same age as you.
I have just started HRT.
So far the oestrogen has helped my aches and pains but am feeling really anxious now. I think i'm ovulating.
About to start the progesterone & am feeling quite anxious as to how it's going to make me feel. 🥺

To your two questions,

Yes and yes.

Doc?

Oh that’s interesting @groundcontroltomajormum! I am EXACTLY the same! Pre-pregnancy periods were physically awful (terrible pain, vomiting, diarrhoea - such fun) now post pregnancy those symptoms are almost entirely gone but the emotional rollercoaster is unreal - anxiety, feeling down and ALL the rage!

Interesting to hear it could be peri - I am late thirties so i guess it’s possible as I know that can start quite early!

I was a raging monster until I started HRT 5 years ago.

Now I am as sweet as pie!

Could have written that post myself OP

I think so. I had it for years.

Yes. Running helped me.

Yes and yes. Hrt really helped, partly because it also helped with night sweats and insomnia so I was getting more than the 2 hours a night I had been getting.

Agnus castus helped too, but it was the hrt that did it.

Still get nowty in the progesterone phase. But not the wanting to pick up a frying pan and throw it Rage.

My rages have been terrible. Finally decided to go onto HRT four weeks ago. I'm hoping it makes a difference. Everyone around me hoped it will make a difference!!