Talk to me about how your periods stopped

[daffodilviolet]

I’m 43 and feel I have been perimenopausal to some extent for several years. Looking back I started to have some short cycles since my late 30s (as short as 18 days) with the odd long one thrown in.

I’m now on day 48 of my cycle as my period just didn’t show up last month.

My sleep has got progressively worse with constant night waking and poor quality sleep, which makes everything else harder.

With the missing period I’m starting to wonder of it’s really kicking in or just part of the long slow journey into menopause.

Can anyone share how your cycle stopped? Did you start to miss periods and when?

I'm 48and have just come off the combined pill which I was on to keep PMDD symptoms at bay. So I haven't had a 'real' period for years and years.

The nurse put me on HRT because it might help (I've had occasional hot sweats and severe muscle aches). After 1 month of it I haven't had a period. Is this usual?? I can't seem to get a clear answer out of anyone.

@daffodilviolet

It really is one thing after another *@HPFA*. Hopefully you will get the reassurance you need. It seems hard for women to get a definite answer on where they actually are at in terms of menopause.

I’m getting close to the “60 days with no period”, which I didn’t even know was a thing but apparently it means you’re in late perimenopause.

Thank you, I have calmed down a little since writing that.

I'm honestly still annoyed about the smear test. I can see the logic of switching to HPV testing first. But I don't see at all the logic of "we'll give you this worrying result and then tell you how we're going to do nothing about it." Under the old system I would have been retested, under the new incoming system I would never have known about the borderline result. Either scenario would have been preferable.