Sterilisation not sure what to so

[Singlebutmarried]

I’ve not worded the title very well so apologies.

I’m booking an appt with the GP to discuss sterilisation, I’m already peri menopausal and currently have a mirena fitted, which I want out but do not want to have an unexpected addition to the family either.

So sterilisation I think it is. My understanding is that my body will still go through its cycle and that periods will still happen.

Have any of you gone this route? I just don’t want a coil on anymore as I’ve had extra hormones for nearly 40 years now and I think my body needs a break.

Would your partner consider sterilisation? It's much less complicated for men then women?

How come you want the mirena out? The mirena can be part of hrt so can be useful if you did want hrt?

Sorry not answered your question but I'm at a similar dilemma although failing miserably to convince my partner to have the snip and I hated the mirena when had it in (although wonder if it wasn't fitted very well). Just don't fancy having a general anaesthetic when dp can have something under local not even in a hospital!

Adamant he doesn’t want the snip. I’m pretty sure the mirena is responsible for my low mood et al so really want it out. It’s due out in a couple of months anyway.

If I could I’d have the whole lot out.

I am sterilised and its been great for me, but mine was performed after my csection with my last dc, while I was already open iyswim so I'm not sure how the recovery from a sterilisation alone is. I had no problems though and it's almost 5 years.

I was sterilised at 40, I’d had the copper coil for 10 years at that point. It’s been about 3 years now and it’s great, really glad I had it done.

DP was adamant about not being ‘done’, his body his choice. He’d have loved more children, I was done at two and he accepted that pretty gracefully. TBH I still think it’s damned selfish of him but, on balance, I like not being dependent on my relationship with him for contraception.

Recovery was just fine, I had my tubes removed rather than clipped (reasons), so the recovery was a bit rougher than standard internally. Or at least that’s what I was told to expect! First 36/48 hours weren’t much fun but I just rested, was totally doable. Stitches are always annoying but these weren’t anything other than normally annoying. The scars are teeny and pretty much invisible now.

I would love to know I cannot get pregnant any more but would not put myself through sterilisation when my dh is selfishly (in my opinion) refusing the snip. We have used condoms since our last (unplanned) child was born, our third, and one split yesterday. So I've had to get the map today. First time in my life. Not impressed that its all on me, and the conversation has come to a dead end when I suggested him having the snip. It's just a flat no.

I had clips done at 32 when child was 13 months. Great decision. Recovery was fine as done by keyhole. Was off work a week but have desk job.

@TheVolturi

I would love to know I cannot get pregnant any more but would not put myself through sterilisation when my dh is selfishly (in my opinion) refusing the snip. We have used condoms since our last (unplanned) child was born, our third, and one split yesterday. So I've had to get the map today. First time in my life. Not impressed that its all on me, and the conversation has come to a dead end when I suggested him having the snip. It's just a flat no.

Why?? It’s you that has to suffer pregnancy/ birth / MAP / abortion. Surely protecting yourself from that (and the worry, even when you’ve got through another month unscathed) is more important than making a point? Obviously it’s selfish of DP not to get the snip, it’ll still be regardless of if you get sterilised or not

I had my tubes tied when I was 27, a year after my second child was born. It was one of the best things I've ever done, the surgery was a breeze, and I've never had a problem. I'm 48 now and would definitely do it over again.

Given the NHS at the moment @Singlebutmarried I wonder how long you would wait for this operation? Sorry to be negative but I doubt a woman in her late 40s or early 50s, near menopause, is going to be top of the list for a non-urgent operation.