I’m being horrible

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Over the last 6-8 months I’ve been getting progressively argumentative, hard hearted, nit picky and just generally obnoxious. I can feel myself doing it especially with DH and generally people that annoy me (like a guy I perceived was patronising me in a shop today). DH said ‘you were really unnecessarily difficult’ - I know! I knew when I was doing it. I reflect on my behaviour but I can’t stop it. This isn’t me. I suffer from quite a lot of pain daily and I have been wondering if it is that, the extended lockdown, getting crotchety and older or maybe just maybe the menopause. I was reading up on HRT wondering if that was the solution but I see it can make you irritable too. Has anyone got any experience?

Did you get any responses to this? I haven’t used MN in ages but came looking cos I can’t keep a lid on my own irritability. You’re not alone. Today my DH asked if I just want an extended period of time away from him and in my head I was yelling “f**k YES!”. I’m on eostrogel and had great success in reducing other symptoms but as winter has come on and I’m eating badly and exercising less, I’m a moody whatsit. He’s the only recipient and I think I hide the strength of it most of the time but there’s a negative feedback loop appearing in our interactions all the time now. Even if I just give a side glance, he’s aware it’s not loving but more critical. Truth is he IS really annoying in many many ways. Grrrrr!

Ohh can I join in.
As far as I know I'm a delight but I've managed to rub a couple of people up the wrong way.
I don't really have a filter so I tell it like it is.I don't mean in a cruel way more like I don't sugar coat stuff all day long.
I'm thinking it must be an age thing more than just menopause though.!

Sounds like me before I got hold of some HRT. Get to/have remote consult with the Dr and get the proper stuff don’t bother with St John’s Wort or Evening Primrose.

Just found this looking...have no patience, tired and people seem demanding in conversation...wondering if this is a thing.