The Rage

[FernieB]

Anyone else feeling the rage?

I've been going through peri menopause for about 5 years and apart from erratic periods it wasn't too bad. The last 18 months I had awful night sweats and hot flushes. These stopped abruptly 3 weeks ago. Now I have the Rage🤬.

Everyone annoys me, I don't want anyone near me, in the same building as me or to speak to me. (This could be exacerbated by lockdown and having no alone time for over a year now). I can feel the anger building as anyone approaches and I know it's completely irrational. Please tell me this will pass?

Similarly, at 48 I am constantly fantasizing about running away. I adore my family but they don't help in the house and are all so needy of me. I can't get half an hour to myself because one of them comes looking for me.

They're teens...and DH is as bad.

Sometimes I pretend I'm not feeling well and go to bed early just to get some peace.

Oooh - I can empathise with both. Plus migraines galore. Am on oestrogen replacement which has helped enormously. Highly recommend!!! Suggest reading up on newest health advice re-oestrogen and it's health benefits for post-menopausal women as it is now recommended to avoid cardiovascular problems (stroke/heart attacks/high blood pressure/vascular dementia), possibly some forms of Alzheimer's disease, and osteoporosis. They now recommend starting oestrogen replacement during perimenopause, not waiting until menopause has kicked in. A lot of doctors are stuck in the 1980's and haven't read up on this.

Yes. HRT has helped, although recently I have had to have the dose increased as the Rage came back with a vengeance (plus night sweats started coming back, though not nearly as drenching).

Yes. I lost it with DHL customer service at work this morning. Not like me at all.

Oh yes. I was laughing at the chapter in Jenny Eclair's book about rage last night. Somehow I know I'm acting like a maniac when I'm ranting (and feel like a tit after) but I still do it.

God yes, the rage !
I keep getting it at work, and desperately need to get it under control.

Glad it's not just me. Some days I really struggle to keep a lid on it.

@FernieB I’m with you I often fly off the handle after being calm the minute before any little thing can set me off. Poor DH ducks for cover, I know it’s happening but cannot control it !

I vacillate between burning rage and seething resentment. Menopausal multitasking.

@Justilou1

I vacillate between burning rage and seething resentment. Menopausal multitasking.

Ah, The Rage. I had it. It was when someone at work annoyed me and I turned around, faced him and in a voice that escalated from a conversational tone to a roar, suggest that he turn around real quick and go fuck himself, that I ended up at the GP asking for HRT.

I still can't suffer fools gladly, but I can manage well enough to be civil, and more importantly, not get the sack!

Oh, but I bet that felt WONDERFUL at the time!

I used to have the RAGE!!! I used homeopathic remedy Nux Vom 30c every 5 mins until it went. And yes it did 👍

FernieB... Are you me???
I could have written this post. I am on HRT and it has helped a bit

For months I had horrific rage about so many innocuous things, and at its height I would physically nip my cheeks at the sound of my DH eating just so that I wouldn't unleash my foul mouth rants at him. I'm on ADs and his eating noises drive me insane but I no longer self hurt or wonder how long it takes to bury a body under the patio.