Good things about the M

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I'm expecting a short thread! But here's mine. No monthly bolting! I love knowing I'll be the same size all the time. No boobs busting out of bras or leggings days because jeans are so uncomfy

Don't think I've mentioned HRT either and whether or not I'm on it. I certainly didn't make this thread about HRT.
And yes. Period pain. Gosh how I suffered as a teen and young woman. The docs then told me it may ease after giving birth. And it did. But not before 15 years of crippling pain!

No periods, thank god, at last. No spending money on tampons, no awkward unexpected appearances, no ruined undies and sheets, no bloody fingers to wash in public loos, no wandering round with a used tampon wrapped I loo roll trying to find a bin, no taking a bag to the loo at work and everyone knowing it's your period, no cramps. No ovulation pains.

No sore tits once a month.

No risk of pregnancy.

Sorry @Sparklehearter it was @QueenOfTheDoubleWide who used evangelical.

I was just commenting generally, not at you especially.

Sorry to hear you have complex health issues already which must be hard.

@JinglingHellsBells

Sorry *@Sparklehearter it was @QueenOfTheDoubleWide* who used evangelical.

I was just commenting generally, not at you especially.

Sorry to hear you have complex health issues already which must be hard.

Thanks Jingling, i think the beauty of the site is that we all bring our own perspectives and I certainly do think there’s a lot to be learnt in knowing our risks and looking at how we can best reduce them.

@JinglingHellsBells

Sorry *@Sparklehearter it was @QueenOfTheDoubleWide* who used evangelical.

I was just commenting generally, not at you especially.

Sorry to hear you have complex health issues already which must be hard.

It was indeed me who used the term evangelical. It wasn't aimed at anybody on this thread but was a more general comment about an attitude which I, personally, find unhelpful, particularly after my training session experience I mentioned, where a male presenter was dismissive of the informed decisions of several attendees (all clinical practitioners) who had decided for various reasons not to take HRT. I have seen some similar attitudes on social media posts. There are risks and there are benefits to every treatment and women deserve to be given full information on those, allowed to make their own decisions and have those decisions respected

@Sparklehearter. Agreed we all bring our own perspectives, I love the positivity of yours!

@JinglingHellsBells The term evangelical was in no way intended as a snide comment on women who choose to use HRT, I am all in favour of women being able to make their own choices without being made to feel that either choice is right or wrong.

Currently enjoying being less people-pleasing, allowing myself to express annoyance instead of bottling up. Looking forward to the end of contraception.

@Sparklehearter @JinglingHellsBells I'm loving being post m. It's like being a child again with all the knowledge of years behind me. I have no wish to take HRT unless I feel it's necessary. Each stage of life is beautiful... do we medicate butterflies to help them be more caterpillar?
If you need medicine, take it... if you don't - why would you?
Just get bloods checked regularly if you're worried

[quote ikswobel]**@Sparklehearter* @JinglingHellsBells* I'm loving being post m. It's like being a child again with all the knowledge of years behind me. I have no wish to take HRT unless I feel it's necessary. Each stage of life is beautiful... do we medicate butterflies to help them be more caterpillar?
If you need medicine, take it... if you don't - why would you?
Just get bloods checked regularly if you're worried [/quote]
Gorgeous analogy ikswobel , I love it . Even if some days I do feel a little more ‘mothy’ than butterfly

🦋🐛🐝 fight like a butterfly!

Can't think of one. Thankfully 60 now and past it all. Just death to look forward to 😀

@DramaAlpaca

Lovely way at looking at it *@Sparklehearter*.

For me, not having periods obviously.

Also, the confidence in myself that's come with age, and the not giving a damn what others think about me. It's very liberating.

Absolutely every word of this. No bleeding, and no bleeding care given to what others think about me.

I put on a bit of weight over the menopause and was devastated because I have always been slim and had heard it was very hard to lose weight after the menopause. I'm here to tell you now, it isn't true. I reduced my food intake (diets are not for me) and upped my exercise a bit, and the weight has come off very nicely. I am enjoying quality time with my dh, and suddenly notice there are loads of other couples a similar age to us all doing the same, looking forward to retirement, still fit and healthy, released from childcare commitments. It's wonderful.

Well I love not having to faff around with periods and I'm glad to be through the peri stage of nauseous headaches but I don't want all the post meno shite so I have just started on a type of HRT as I have zero libido.

It's called tibidol and it's one tablet a day. I will see how I get on. My doctor is great and willing to try other stuff. So far so good but I heard that tibidol is not the "gold standard" so I may do more research and go back in the new year

www.mymenopausetransformation.com/active-ageinghealthy-ageing/olive-oil-and-prevention-of-chronic-inflammation-new-research-for-women-in-menopause/
For anyone with achy joints, I thought you might might be interested in this. I am not on her program, but I get her emails every week with info on new research into menopause, and things to help yourself. It's a very positive(and scientific) view of menopause and aging. She often speaks at events all over the world in normal times. I emailed her once when I was in despair at my symptoms, she emailed back with suggestions, which turned out to be correct, and I felt so much better

Absolutely nothing
zilch. Zero

It’s a hellish horrid tiring stressful time of life. Particularly when you have teen kids, have to keep working, have developed tinnitus and a house to deal with daily. It’s shite !