I'm Done I Want To Ask For A Hysterectomy - Am I Being Unreasonable ?

[Middicat]

I would value your advice as DH does not really understand - and how could he I get that. I am 54 years old and suffered severe menstrual migraines through my entire 20s and 30s. I have had ops for ovarian cysts in the past and an op to check to see that I didn't have ovarian cancer 7 years ago because my cancer marker C125 was too high. Luckily it was ok. My periods have always been really heavy - in peri they were hard to manage and I had an ablation which didn't work. Not good with synthetic hormones (depression) and resisted a mirena coil. Had a copper coil and ended up in hospital with heavy bleeding. Had two shots of Provera to stop bleeding in peri. have had a total of 5 hysteroscopies and 3 biopsies for endometrial cancer because of abnormal bleeding. Following all this I stopped bleeding for a year and then started again (menopause). GP sent me to hospital where they did a scan and found lining was slightly thickened. They then did a biopsy for which I am waiting of the result. The Consultant thought it was likely to be straight forward endometrial thickening without cancer but all this freaks me out and I don't want more biopsies and scans in the future. I want a hysterectomy so I can move on with my life is that unreasonable do you think?

I don't have personal experience with hysterectomy but just wanted to let you know about my mum' experience. She had a lot of hormonal issues during her life and her peri period was really awful. She had to have injections for heavy bleeds (don't know which). Once her period stopped things were okay but she had a massive bleed after 1.5 years and had a period for 15 days. She simply refused to goto the doctors as she had enough.
But luckily for her it was just one last bleed. She is 16 years post menopause now.
I guess what i want to say is may be wait for a few months before taking a decision. At your age it might be that you are just there. Hysterectomy is a major surgery and even if recoveries are fast nowadays there is always the risk of adhesions which can affect quality of life in later years.

Given that the waiting list is likely to be over a year, waiting a few months is poor advice. If you are accepted on the wait list, you can still change your mind if things settle naturally in the meantime.

Your request is not unreasonable OP, you come across as well informed and not just jumping it to the most extreme option. Have a chat with the consultant when you can, they're the ones with your medical history and with the knowledge as to whether a referral would be accepted (they may have to apply for funding, even when the consultant agrees in some areas it needs to be approved by a panel).

One additional thought, have you tried bio identical hormones? I had a terrible time with synthetic HRT too (chemical meno).

So what are you going to do @Middicat?
Your option is to have it done privately, if anyone will.

Why is your husband an issue too?

What's all that about?