Sex drive and out of sync DH

[MiddleOfThePack]

Can't recall if there's been a thread on this before but here goes.

I'm in menopause and have been for years. I go to bed about 2230 as I'm flat out knackered by then. DH stays up until 2, sometimes 3am. Then he complains that he doesn't get sex.

Weekends are worse as he then sleeps until almost midday and I get up 0930 latest as the dog & parrot need attending to.

We also have 3 kidults all at home so scheduling during the day is hard. Along with my zero libido it's really tough making sure we do it at all.

Any tips?

There have indeed been threads about this in the past.

I think most asked why you are so tired (ie are DC and DH being lazy round the house and you are basically an unpaid servant so if DH did his but you wouldn’t be so tired and may be up for more sex etc)

Many posts recommended HRT as many have found that beneficial.

Some recommended getting bloods done if you have heavy periods all the time as you could be anaemic or low in folic acid or b12 and need supplements.

And some said stuff DH. He has a hand let him crack on.

I was there, the problem isn't you, it's your dp - 2am! Eventually we split, my now dp like to go to bed with me, around 10.30/11

He's the problem. 2am?? What does he expect, I'd tell him no fucking chance until he treats you with respect.