Worried this is menopause

[Loosingmysanity]

Hi all lovely mumsnetters, I'm seeking some reassurance. I'm 36 this month and for the past 4/5 months I've been feeling these odd feelings. It's around a 11 days to 4 days before my period. It starts with me. Feeling bloated and fat, I then look in the mirror and panic, I then weigh to see at least a 4 to 5lb weight gain, this leads me. To hating myself and getti g very upset. Then hits the tearfullness, and then anger, irrational thoughts and just feeling very unsociable, i just want to be left alone, i feel suffocated and just really really not myself at all. As for my period when it starts I feel a huge cloud of relief. I still get them regularly and they are still pretty much the same flow wise, a little heavy due to the copper coil. Any advise? I want to ttc in the next few months but die to anxiety over my size I'm. Scared to and also covid I can't get a coil removal. Hope someone can shed some light soon. TIA

Op l am much older than you and started the menopause 2 years ago, this does not sound like it, of course l am not a doctor though!

What is your diet like? if it is lacking good nutrition that would cause the bloating and monthly depression....
If you want to try this then cutout sugar and processed food, add in every type of vegetable and berries you can find daily, take Vit D and echinacea and St Johns Wort for the mood swings. After a couple of months of this you should find your symptoms massively reduce

I would strongly recommend getting these health issues sorted now before TTC ..as that can be stressful in itself..good luck.

Amazingly I don't eat a lot but I'm overweight, thyroid has always been fine. I'm on b12 injections, St John's wort sounds good to try, I just don't understand why the mood swings are so. Bad, thankyou for. Your reply x

If you don;t eat a lot but are overweight it could be poor gut health, google it as l don't want to give inacurate info..

8 years ago l gained 2 stone in a year, and went from being a healthy slim weight all my life, l also had other symptoms, painful joints and some mood swings, painful upset stomach every night.
I eventually did two things that entirely fixed the problems (after going down the traditional route of Dr and camera investigations which showed nothing)
I had my hair tested through a company called Bionetics, you send in hair root samples and they analyse it and produce a report covering allegies, deficiencies etc and recommended supplements. I started the supplements and my stomach problems were gone in a month and have never returned, all to do with poor gut health and some unknown allergies. Joint pain went too.
this motivated me to tackle the weight gain, with a friend l followed th Louise Parker Method, ( book on amazon)
Sugar and processed food free it takes some commitment, but recipes are simple and boy does it work!
First week l lost 8LB ! and ate 3 healthy meals a day. The 2 stone went in 8 weeks...but the biggest difference was my moods were so much better...for me it was cutting out the processed food and sugar that helped..l still follow a version of it today and am sure it keeps me well.
Not sure if this is any help but if you want to be in the best shape physically and mentally to TTC it may be worth really looking into your health...it is very surprising how something as simple as what and how we eat can have such a huge impact on general health and mood.

That's amazing, basically I don't really eat carbs, I live off of fish and chicken, veg and salad, i hate sweet stuff like chocolate and cake etc, could u pm me the company who. Did your hair strand test if possible x

Bionetics...google will pop up their website, a hair test used to be about £50 but it was so thorough and life changing for me totally worth it..

I thought everyone knew that these hair tests were a scam and no science behind them at all.

You cannot , simply cannot, diagnose allergies (it's intolerances not allergies- allergies can kill you) with a hair test.

I saw a Prof of allergy some years ago- he was world renowned- and the only valid way to test for vitamin deficiency is a blood test by a doctor, and intolerance by an elimination diet.

Everything else is smoke and mirrors.

maybe Jingling, but it worked for me...and in case you were wondering l have no connection to this company this was just my experience, l had no expectations and was rather dubious but desperate, as had had 2 years of poor health and no medical solution despite lots of tests....

Also it identified seafood and caffeine as allergies...l have been unable to swallow seafood since a young child and gave up caffeine in my teens as it caused vicious headaches...l am not medically trained so do not know if the science stacks up or not, but the supplements recommended did cure my stomach issues and joint pains..l can only speak from my own experience.

I think they probably suggested the foods that are likely to cause intolerance in a lot of the population. Also, there is around a 30-40% placebo effect with anything anyone uses- prescribed drugs or supplements. I'm pleased you are better but there is no positive science behind these tests.

@Loosingmysanity What you described in your first post sounds like premenstrual syndrome (PMS.)

I'm not sure what advice you want and if you are asking if these symptoms are signs of menopause? They don't sound like that.
Are you overweight or are you saying you put on weight in the 2nd half of your cycle? That is PMS and loads of women get that.
If you eat only what you say, and in moderate amounts, it seems odd you are overweight. How overweight are you? Obviously if you are, then losing it before you become pregnant is all for the good from a health perspective.