Struggling with People

[Orangeblossom78]

Nit sure if anyone else gets this but recently getting very cross with random small things such as people in general...not so much close family (Dcs and DH, although they can be annoying also) but for example

People in shops fussing
People in yoga making phone calls
Crowds
Irritating people on the radio / fussing over small things

Just odd things like this giving me the rage, especially week before period (am mid 40s)

I'm generally quite anxious anyway but this is difficult and also things like yoga which is meant to be relaxing being actually pretty annoying at times - thinking better to just read and stay home or do an online video

But this isolating yourself socially is not meant to be a good thing either is it? Not sure whether to just go with it and stay away from such stuff or deal with it and keep going on all the time, don;t want to go into a depression either.

But people can be so annoying and selfish at times. am trying to be compassionate and remind myself they also have stuff going on..

and of course not expressing my rage / irritation!

Glad it is not just me then!.I work with predominantly young men and live.with two.I hear myself moaning about the lack of help with housework.Sometimes I think a quiet.place alone would be ideal.Clean tidy and no bullshit.😂.
I like people in general just seems to be too many irritating men at the moment.DS aside.

I wonder will they give me hrt at the grand old age of 34...?

For me your attitude sounds like you are more self centered and you simply don’t want to wast your time and energy for tolerating others. Normal for me! 😂

I've felt a shift too. I am mid forties with 3 dc (including 2 young ones). I am a sahm and feel quite isolated at times but also wonder how I would hold done a job due to my irritability/anxiety and sometimes tiredness (note to self to get folate and B12 checked). I have been ping ponging back and forth to the GP recently. I know I need to do something next year when youngest starts pre-school - fortunate in a way that I do not need to work but don't want to become isolated so thinking something voluntary. I kind of feel that my days of working full-time hours are over. I probably would feel different in a full-time job but now I have been out of the loop for so long, it feels a mountain to climb and I am somewhere in between the working camp and early retiree camp but feeling older if that makes sense. Also, looking at joining a gym and possible walking group. Confused because I feel guilty for not working but too much in turmoil/anxious to work. I take beta blockers and find that a great help but GP mentioning they are a short-term solution. Took HRT patch/progesterone pill but I'm not sure it made any difference. Plus patch kept falling off.

Place marking too, so it's not just me like this. I feel so sad also

I'm approaching 40 and feel like this too. It could be hormones I guess. I do also just put it down to having grown tired of bullshit now. There is nothing wrong with isolating yourself socially if it makes you feel better. I'm much happier on my own these days because I don't have to put up with other people's nonsense.

Also, why not do things that make your life easier? I hate the supermarket when it's busy, always use self service and now do online for the big shop. If people are using their phone in a class, tell them politely to put it away. It sounds like you're just finally rebelling against this whole idea women should be nice ie put up with an unsufferable amount of crap.

@JhustJenny sometimes I feel like that too but hate myself for thinking like that.
Actually feel like I'm just in a rage all the time but equally just want to bawl my eyes out and cry. Actually feel like that now and no real reason

Yes also the constant guilt @Hopingtobeamum

@JhustJenny thank god it's not just me then

User 48675 regarding work you may feel more energetic if you find a job that suits you.When my dc were small I couldn't afford childcare and my dh was on a low wage.I found this more draining and isolating tbh.Fast forward to mid 50s and until recently been working 53 hour weeks and full of energy.I too suffer anxiety and believe this helps control my stress.

User48675 I feel quite like this also. It feels quite strange. I have recently got this book from the library called the Second half of your life. Found it quite helpful but not sure yet. It had some ideas and thoughts in there

It's like a bomb going on and no-one warns you. Most areas of my life have been affected. My relationship is suffering with dh, I'm snapping at the dcs (sahm with a toddler and two at school). Anxiety through the roof controlled by beta blockers. Insomnia (controlled by antidepressants). GP is trying me on and off different meds (antidepressants) and I have been advised to give them several weeks to work - but they're not working and I've taken ads before and know they would have worked by now. And hormone patches won't stay on (need to buy some surgical tape). Women really do get a raw deal. I'm having an extremely bad day today and this much younger woman breezed past me this morning on the school run with a cheery hello and practically skipping and I sort of growled and thought yes, this might happen to you one day! What's worse is the ignorance between women...so often I get the 'you're too young line' or speak to women who are clearly in the 16% minority who are relatively unaffected by all of this.

bomb going off

I am trying some Melatonin for sleep. Amitryptilline is also helpful for sleep but they don't prescribe it much anymore, and older style of antidepressant. I have some St Johns wort atm but have taken SSRIs in the past.

Yes I am finding my reserves of empathy and compassion are much lower, at a time when in the sandwich of older parents and DCs..really just prioritising my self care whilst trying not to feel guilty is quite hard. But sometimes I just feel angry expected to be this all caring all reserves type person and just feel the rage.

With things like elderly parents not looking after themselves or seeking help and getting onto a pickle. Have little patience for it. Dc making a fuss about things.

I don't have the elderly parents thing - one of the advantages I suppose of them deciding not to contact us much but I do have a toddler, a teen and one very testing one in between.

Perimenopausal rage, its a thing. My doctor just shrugged her shoulders and said there's nothing she can do for me. I exercise, eat well, take a billion supplements and nothing works. I find myself saying ffs loudly pretty much all the time, like today in the supermarket after saying excuse me 3 times to someone blocking the aisle. Am pretty much in isolation mode out of work and yes my colleagues are also irritating the fuck out of me at the moment.
Also have youngish child and elderly parents who seem to need to contact me daily to repeat what they told me yesterday. Currently dreaming of living alone on a tiny island.

I don’t know how to paste a link but google nice menopause guidelines and go back to your gp with that, the impact it’s having on you, your mental health and family
Life and ask them if they would expect a man to live like that @Dacaday

Grrrrrr

I’m 49 and getting this too. My sleep patterns aren’t great so that could account for short temper to some extent but the ‘rage’ is kind of something else.

I have a fitbit and averaging 6.5 hrs sleep, supposed to aim for 8...this has been for last say 6 months or so..

Im 50 and despite having no periods for 3 months they now appear regularly again but back to being exceptionally heavy. BUT my god I could kill people! I split with STBXH of 30 years last September and am in a new relationship of 4 months where only the weekend it was perfect, I could forgive their little habits that at the time were 'cute'. But yesterday and today Im on the verge of calling it all off, they arent even at home but their comments to me over the phone and text are just winding me right up. Ive never felt rage like it. I sat and howled like a baby earlier now Im just so fucking angry. Dreading them coming home cos I know its just going to be another night of me complaining and upsetting them. Tell me what to do please, I hate myself