Is this peri menopause?

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I'm 39. My periods have become heavier and shorter in the last 6 months. In the last month or so, I have been plagued (sorry, I can't think of a better word!!) with sexual thoughts. Constantly. I work in a public facing role and I think about customers, when I take kids to their swimming lessons, I think about the poor, innocent men minding their own business having a swim or walking past. I think about former colleagues I've not seen in years. I think about the postman. You get the picture Unfortunately, pregnancies, traumatic births and weight gain has left me with no body confidence, so the extra thoughts aren't translating into bedroom action.
Is this peri menopause? Or is it simply coinciding with my kids sleeping a little better and me being marginally less exhausted? Or my body telling me to lose weight and surprise my husband? I've heard of loss of libido but not the creation of a crazy, fantasy world like this

Doesn’t sound like it to me

Sounds like you may be experiencing hormonal changes not necessarily perimenopause though. Heavier and shorter periods might be worth checking with gp.

Losing weight if you feel motivated isn't a bad idea for your health and self esteem.

Do you feel you need to lose weight to have some nice sex with your husband? Sure he'd love some sex anyway if you are feeling so inclined! Sounds like you've been through a lot. Can you talk to him about how you feel about yourself?

@Mumteedum thank you for your kind response. Totally the weight loss and fitness needs to be a priority for 2020, we've really had a tough few years and it's taken its toll on my health and fitness. The extra sleep will help with that too. Maybe the sexual thoughts will subside if I get to the gym more, or maybe if I simply have more sex I was too busy thinking hormones I didn't actually consider that!
I've got a period tracker app, so I'll try to keep an eye on that aspect. Thank you again.