Dr reckons I'm perimenopausal

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I've suspected it for some time but hearing it from a GP has floored me a little bit. I feel sad but I can't explain why, I don't want any more children.
I'm also slightly scared.

But I've got a wealth of symptoms, can't remember when my last proper period was, I get so bloody hot at times, I'm emotionally incontinent - cry at anything.

I'm just waffling, trying to somehow clear things in my head. I've been offered HRT or settle alone but don't know if I want to go down that route yet, my MH is somewhat precarious and for the first time in years I'm in a good place. I don't want to upset that.

What other delights have I got in store? I'm 45 years old.

Take your drs advice and try HRT.

If you've not had a period for along while it puts you at risk of osteoporosis and heart disease in the long term because 45 is young for periods to stop- average age in UK is 51.

I know how you feel. I'm 45, my periods are all over the place, I'm tired and anxious all the time. I also feel sad. I don't want any more children but I just feel my youth is over now. It sounds ridiculous to say that at 45 but I always felt and looked the same as I did in my 20s. It's hard to get my head round the fact in a few years I'll be a 50 year old menopausal woman.

I think Jingling has a point. I had absolutely dreadful periods all the time - heavy, frequent, debilitating - and the menopause couldn't have come soon enough for me but I realise that for you, it's quite different. HRT then was linked to possible cancer risk but time and science have moved on. It's worth going back to your GP and discussing your options again, given the symptoms you are experiencing now. Good luck.

It's hard to get my head round the fact in a few years I'll be a 50 year old menopausal woman

Well, no one can stop you reaching 50 or older but how you live your life at 50 is a choice.

Seriously, these days you can take HRT for life if you are aware of the small risks and feel the benefits make it worth using, so there is no need to turn into an old crone.