Please tell me, when did your menopause symptoms stop?

[theoriginalmadambee]

I have been on a thread moaning about all the nasty things our bodies do to us.

But when does it stop? I know it is highly individual, but what was it like for you?

Two years in and I have had it. I want to sleep, not feel anxious, be me instead of this hormonal rollercoaster.

Please don't say HRT, due to family history, it's something I want to avoid.

I’d been given the maximum dose of HRT but then ended up having a mammogram due to a breast lump (benign thank God) and so my GP said it may be better to stop taking it. I’m at a loss as to what to do because I can’t stand the though of going on like this.

My mother has osteoporosis and my father suffered terribly from heart disease. I can’t believe I’ve ended up like this. I have never been ill in my life until this happened.

@Madambee - sorry! Although I think the author’s experiences are extreme, I have to say I’ve never felt such uncontrollable rages. Truly frightening.

There’s so much misinformation and scaremongering about HRT. I’d urge anyone suffering to speak to a meno specialist.

Dr Louise Newson is doing some really great work trying to shine a light on menopause symptoms and the benefits of HRT. She also debunks a lot of the stories you read in the Press around the dangers of HRT.

I know HRT isn’t for everyone for various reasons but it helps so much to speak with someone who knows about it and may be able to advise alternatives.

@Lolichi, quite Allright .

I will do my utmost to avoid HRT. But if it is the only thing keeping me sane, I will have to consider it no matter what. But still fighting to avoid it.

In the last 10 years I have lost several relatives due to cancer and we have found out there is a brca gene at play ☹️.

@Thankyouplease You need in my opinion to see a menopause specialist. Either through your GP or self refer, to one privately. A benign lump is not, as far as I know, a reason to stop HRT at your young age. You went into surgical menopause at 40- the health risks of that especially with a family history of osteo and heart disease need to be weighed up. You need to decide what you would like to do. HRT is a balance of risks and benefits. What you do need now is a DEXA scan to see what your bone density is at the moment, then you can start to think about what to do next re HRT or other drugs to help.
Be proactive- seek out an expert and don't just do 'what your GP' says- they are not experts.

I think you’re right. It’s through medical negligence that I had the hysterectomy in the first place which is an awful series of events. I’m just so fed up of being like this. I don’t even recognise the person that I am now.

@Thankyouplease You need to take control- it's your life and no one else is going to do it for you. There is a list of specialists on the British Menopause Society website. I don't know where you live but there are some all across the UK. For the cost of around £250 you will get expert advice. There are wonderful drs out there who will help you but they aren't going to come to you- you need to find them.

thebms.org.uk/find-a-menopause-specialist/

If you want advice on who is good and are happy to share your location, I can offer an opinion as I know some of them through my work and personally.

I've had dreadful symptoms during peri and thought I was going to have to give everything up. It's got gradually better and since I hit the menopause, the anxiety is gone but been replaced by hot flushes which are not too bad during the day, but sadly ruin my nights that were already dreadful.

I wake up with my heart beating like mad 6 times a night. Sometimes I manage to get back to sleep, but sometimes not, and all in all, my sleep is pants and with that my mental and physical energy.

It's so nice to read that it does come back. I was such a deep sleeper before, even during the most stressful times of my life, sleep was my reprieve. My mum said she went through the same but started to sleep well again when it was over, so I'm hoping it will be the case for me too.

If it wasn't for sleep, I could say that I am coping with the menopause ok, but sleep impacts everything else in life.

I am 54 and seem to have come out the other side of menopause after hitting it full on 2 years ago. It is really odd and I am still not taking it for granted, as I have had a couple of months when I had no bad symptoms at all. This time, I am heading for 8 weeks without the dreaded hot flushes and waking in puddles of sweat. I am back to being unable to keep warm and it is something of a relief. I am not on HRT, as I was on it when the perimenpause began and it really didn't agree with my hereditary high blood pressure. I had a hysterectomy 21 years ago, so no periods to judge by. Luckily, I wasn't afflicted with bad rage. I have brain fog a lot anyway, and aching joints, which are currently really bad, but that is because I have no thyroid. I am praying that the hot flushes and night sweats don't return.

@LittleCandle 🤞

@Madambee - thanks.