My partner doesn't understand

[caro66]

Hi I seem to be suffering from every menopause symptom under the sun at the moment but the worst being the constant tears, hot flushes, very achey limbs and insomnia.

I have been in a relationship for 8 months and during that time my HRT has been changed several times mainly due to supply issues. Nothing now seems to be working in fact I seem to be getting worse . I have tried all the herbal remedies and also bought Progest cream

. I am so desperate as it's affecting my whole life including my relationship with my daughter and my new partner. The difference being that my 13 year old seems to understand that I am trying my best and still her loving mummy . My partner though gets very angry and will hang up on me if I am tearful calling me a nut job and saying it's all in my head . He said I have severe mood swings but I know that I am not as bad as he says .

I am just looking for advice and see if anyone has experience of partners not understanding

Thank you

I would end the relationship. What are you getting out of it. He sounds (at best) very rude and inconsiderate. Concentrate on doing whatever makes life easier for you and your DD.

Sorry, I know that doesn't help the menopause symptoms!

I’m so sorry and it’s not what you want to hear I’m sure but he really does sound a bit of a nob. Probably a break from him would help your stress levels at a time when you can do without hassle.

To be fair it is often after we feel better that we realise how difficult we were. It's hard for a person who has known you for a short period of time and didn't know you well before the meno, and if he has no clue how the menopause affect us, then it is quite scary for them. Not excusing though the name he calls you, totally unacceptable.

I didn't realise before going through it how the meno would affect me as a person, going from a happy, energetic, fun and confident person to one being miserable, exhausted, with no comdlfidemce and certainly not much fun. It took time for my OH (and I) to appreciate that I was still the same person deep inside and that the kinder he was to me rather than critical, the more likely I'd shown signs of the person I used to be.

8 months relationship during the meno is tough. If he is not prepared to support you though and be patient, there isn't much to hang on to.