Need help/advice please?

[CmdrVimes]

I'm 43, I'm going through the menopause, according to my Doctor.

I'm not allowed HRT because I have history of a DVT.

I need advice and support and whatever in trying to control my psycho mood.

This last week, I have been my Sister as a teenager when she was on her period. Ie - evil, nasty, snappy, bitchy, judging, criticising everything.

I really don't like it, none of those are me, I try so very hard to be not those things, but some days I cannot do anything to avoid it? :(

Does anyone have any advice?

Meds wise - I'm on a lot because I am also severely disabled with various conditions including SubAcute Combined Degeneration of the Spinal Cord (due to my doc refusing my meds for 9 years and convincing us that something else was making me poorly and that I didn't need the meds I am supposed to be on for life - in turn this has caused brain, nerves and spinal cord damage)

I also have

Fibro,
ME,
Degenerative disc disease, lumbar and cervical
Scheueurmann's Disease
Osteo Arthritis
Spondylitis
Tenosynovitis
Synovitis

So if there are any suggestions of OTC meds or natural therapy - I would need to ensure that it was ok to take with my current meds.

When I'm not being PsychoB*tch, I am a happy, positive and optimistic person, I am an empath so I spent a lot of my time looking after my online friends, being there for them, and supporting them through their trials and such.

I really need help, both my Fiance and my Son are a bit fed up of arguing with me. :'(

Is there anything obvious that I can do?

Just bumping this thread for you, @CmdrVimes - hopefully some wise Mumsnetters will be along soon with some advice and support.

Sorry things are so tough at the moment

In brief, you may be allowed some types of HRT such as transdermal estrogen. Have you had your blood tested for the clotting factor?

Have you been referred to a menopause specialist as your health issues are complex.

Unfortunately the answer to both of those questions, is no. :/

I guess it's a trip to my doctor to talk about both of those aspects. Once they're properly running that is (they've just changed trusts AND their computer system AND their phone system, so everything is mammaries up at the moment)

No one with your medical conditions should be being 'treated' by a GP!

The NICE guidance for early menopause is HRT. As you already have bone issues with your spine, (is that oestoporosis?) your risk of further bone dengeneration without HRT is significant.

Are you being treated by a rheumatologist for all the other things- spondylitis, osteoarthritis etc?
They ought to review things now in light of early menopause.

You need a referral to a top menopause specialist-there are a handful in the UK and depending where you live your dr may refer you. The Chelsea & Westminster in London has an early meno team that is the best in the UK, You could be referred if you could travel.

spinal bone issues are basically osteo arthritis and spondylitis.

Spondylitis and osteoarthritis are treated by bone doctors not rheumy's , if i had rheumatoid arthritis then the rheumy would probably treat me.

I will speak to my docs, they said I wasn't allowed because of my previous dvt, yet they don't check my blood because of my previous dvt because they said "you were pregnant, smoking and had a plaster cast on your leg, all of those are high risk for dvt, it doesn't mean you're normally at risk"

I don't move out of my chair, I cannot move my legs myself, so I am at risk of clotting to some extent, but they obviously think not enough to do anything about it.

I am on depo injection to prevent menstruation, I've not had a proper period since 2004, so I SHOULD be being checked regularly for bone density, (especially as I don't move) but they only did it once in the last 10 years. I do wear compression stockings, but that is it.