Background I am almost 54, have gained a lot of weight over the years, have an under active thyroid (I am monitored for another longer term health problem which is a worry in the background but it isn’t giving raise to concern at the moment). I haven’t had a period for a year so I am obviously menopausal, I am married, Work part time and I am mum 2 two teenage children. I was brilliant with them when I and they were younger but now I find it extremely unrewarding. I discussed HRT with my GP sometime ago but he was quite dismissive maybe because I am over weight and with my other health conditions. My night sweats and day time sweats haven’t been as frequent or troublesome of late. But I am moody, sometimes angry and frustrated and sometimes feel a bit paranoid and unconfident. I have gone off sex (all interest is gone or I have to have a lot of persuasion). I just don’t think I am as happy as I could/should be. I used to always be really positive with the kids and give them a lot of praise but now DH says I have a real downer on the kids but he works really long hours so doesn’t see as much of them. They are both mostly lazy, thoughtless and disrespectful (typical teenagers) I find it wearying tidying up, picking up after them, reminding them of things and nagging them into doing the odd small job like feeding the dog or doing a quick hoover or something. DD is absolutely filthy hiding used sanitary towels and dirty knickers everywhere. DH said his mum said he did nothing at home as a teenager and I didn’t do that much (as my mum didn’t work) so I should just leave them alone and not bother. I think this attitude is totally wrong and can see me either continuing to baby them, living in a shit hole for the rest of my days or running around after them in my 70’s. I feel very tired and worn out most of the time. Could my mood be depression menopause or neither and how do you know and any advice please?