Is it peri menopause of have i become irrationally angry for no reason?

[StinkyWizleteets]

I’d thought about name changing but why should I be embarrassed?
I’m 44, had a baby 2 years ago and still breastfeeding. Before I got pregnant my hormones were a bit haywire but my bloods were ‘fine’. My periods were classed as regular but cycles ranged from 19-37 days. Periods returned very quickly after the baby and they were regular and fantastic (if you can say that, no pmt)
For the past 6months they’ve been getting irregular again still 19-37days) but worse is that mid cycle about the time ovulation occurs onwards I get uncontrollable rage until my period starts. I’ve never had rage like this before. I can cope with everything else hormonal but the rage. It’s crippling and leaves me feeling suicidal, which is alien to me because I’m not actually depressed and don’t actually want to die. I’ve noted and timed it now and know it’s hormonally driven which is somewhat reassuring but hellish to live with. GP says I’m too young for it to be peri menopause and can’t be because I had a baby two years ago. They offered the combined pill which is incompatible with bfing
Is this perimenopause and would HRT help or do I just have to live with it until my hormones finally pack in ? How do I get someone to listen to me?

Nobody is too young for peri! It happens usually after 45 but it is not an absolute. My peri started at 38 and diagnosed at 42 after a year in hell. I was suicidal and depressed too, no confidence at all and feeling like somebody else in my own body! Change your GP and ask for help.

This ignorant attitude from some gp's ENRAGES me. Honestly, it's pathetic that they can call themselves doctors. You are NOT too young to be experiencing peri-menopause. It can start quite suddenly and can last for years. I would get myself to a gynaecologist.

It might be post natal. My cousin got this rage her periods started back up after bf and for a year GP dismissed them thinking it was peri (she’s similar age to you) but eventually she was diagnosed. See a health visitor if you can.

You are definitely not too young for peri. The problem is that GPs get virtually no training in menopause.

I had a child around similar age to you and went into early menopause at 45.

I had the rage and the suicidal feelings. I never had a hot flush or night sweat. I'm on HRT and once I found the right one for me, those feelings disappeared.

I would go back to your surgery and see another GP.

I'm sorry you feel like this. It is totally shit, I know x

thanks all. I know I don’t have post natal depression. I am not depressed at all. It came on 13+ months after my periods restarted (baby was 3m when they came back despite ebf) so I doubt it was post pregnancy hormone related as I’d have returned to normal by 18 months post partum. If I was depressed it would be much easier to explain or understand. I guess I need to be brave and fight for help :(

Your GP is wrong. Even the very basic NHS choices website says menopause is usually between 45-55
www.nhs.uk/conditions/menopause/

The Faculty for Sexual and Reproductive Health guidelines on contraception for over 40s has a good wee section on perimenopause.
www.fsrh.org/standards-and-guidance/documents/fsrh-guidance-contraception-for-women-aged-over-40-years-2017/