Am I peri menopausal/depressed/in need of ending my relationship

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Or possibly all three?

Periods still regular but cycle has changed for solid 32 days since forever to 21-29 day.

I want to kill most people. Everything annoys me. I want to cry and go back to bed ( because I feel knackered and because I want the world to go away).

Husband is getting the brunt of this. He is a good man. But I am finding his very existence at best a annoyance and at other times I just want him somewhere else before I kill him. Started looking at how much I could afford as a house if we were to split.

I feel so sad and hopeless. I work from the house, mostly alone.

I am knackered all the time.

I'm 47 - which is the age my father was when he died. This caused my brother to have a bit of a breakdown a couple of years ago when he hit this milestone. I don't want to copy that.

This feels like a mad place to be asking for help- but the posts from others do seem to reflect what I am feeling.

Any thoughts appreciated - but I will make a go appointment.

Oh Im so glad I read this thread because I now know other women are going through similar.

I feel like Im going to explode Ive so much rage /despair /anxiety inside of me. Im so highly strung Im giing to snap.

Im trying to read up on different treatments but there are so many different types Im confused.

Maybe start with the diet and excerise and see if that has positive impact.

Do you think any of this is to do with your father dying at this age like did you imagine yourself dying at this age and now realise you have a future and not sure its the one you want?

I wonder if counselling might help you, on your own at first. I am similar age, wfh, tired all time but love DH. Not as much as I love kids and cat but still couldn't imagine life without him so maybe more than hormones to this. But there's no why in your post and could well be you just need to work on relationship. I wouldn't make any rash decisions.

It's a really weird time having hormones all over the place. Like being a teenager all over again.

What helps?

Exercise - I feel loads of sympathy for women whose symptoms aren't letting them exercise as I'd go mad without it. It makes me feel as if I've "washed things out" temporarily.

I remind myself I'm still an adult and still have all that knowledge and experience. Emotions might be raging but I can still think rationally and hopefully this won't last forever.

If you want to do something crazy and it isn't going to hurt anyone then do it! You don't need to start having crazy affairs or buy a sports car but if you want to listen to soppy music again or read teenage vampire crap then do it!! Have some fun.

I could have written this at 45. It was an appalling time and I ended up having a menopause divorce and generally acting like a beast and hating everyone.
The exhaustion was crippling. I think you need HRT before making any decisions.
Get to your doctor asap and besthe of luck.

So my gp said hrt would only really help with hot flushes not the tiredness and feeling overwhelmed. It's utterly terrible. I want to cry at work sometimes if I get given 2 new jobs to do in an hour (I'm a solicitor ffs I can manage a lot more than that without blinking normally).

I've just come out of some kind of brain fog I think I've been in literally for months as well. Would hrt help with that kind of thing?

I'm trying to work out how to incorporate some exercise routine back in but failing miserably at the moment.

So my gp said hrt would only really help with hot flushes not the tiredness and feeling overwhelmed. It's utterly terrible.

Your GP is a numpty.

Find another one.

The tosh GPs spout about HRT is really quite frightening.

Yes it should help. Every single organ of the body is affected by estrogen levels and that includes the brain.

Go back to your Doctors.

I could have written the same post!
Just been prescribed Citalopram - one week in and I feel like a different person!!

Do not give up on your relationship xx

I suddenly at the end of last year developed overwhelming PMT symptoms - horrific anxiety and depression for the 5-6 days before my period came. Was so weepy and the second my period came (altho not so regular) it stopped.
Not in the UK but my GP recommended black cohosh. I’ve been taking it for just over 2 months now and altho it took a while to start working my period turned up yesterday with absolutely no PMT. I’m definitely going to keep on taking it