Help knowing where to start getting help

[claraandbertha]

I have early onset menopause (I am 43) that is doing terrible things to my mental health. I have been put on HRT for about 4 months now which I can't say is helping a whole lot. Perhaps the worst symptom is that I think about work in a negative way constantly and can't sleep. All day and night what I have done wrong at work, why I am a failure at work and what I have to do at work whirrs around in my head at great speed, pretty much no matter what else I am trying to do.

I should say that before 12 months ago everything was just fine and I have no real problems in my life (lovely DH and DC) except for hating my work so I do think it is the menopause which is the root cause of the problem. Despite that I need to find some way of coping as this could go on for years I am told.

As well as carrying on with the gynaecologist who is giving my HRT, I think it's time to see someone about my mental health. But I have literally no idea where to start. What sort of person should I be looking for? A therapist, psychiatrist, counsellor, something else?

I would love some help trying to navigate this.

Do you still hate your work? That can't be doing your MH or self esteem much good.

I do and my self esteem is very low at the moment but I don't really have many options about work. There is only really one company in town for my skill set.

But thinking about work night and day is not normal or healthy and the job isn't objectively that bad. I mean they are not personally harassing me or anything like that. I clearly have a mental health problem which I think is caused by menopausal hormones.

Do you think speaking to a life coach about your work might help. Could you be more specific about why you hate it so much? Are the problems within your sphere of influence or out of your control?

Hi! Give time your hormones to stabilize! Maybe starting psychotherapy is a good idea?