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friends wo't talk about menopause

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stuckin90s · 20/04/2017 10:02

Whenever I bring up menopause problems with friends or relatives my age or older, they cut me off and go silent or change the subject, it makes me feel so isolated.Do others have this experience.

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PollyPerky · 21/04/2017 15:41

I've forgotten what IRRC stands for! :)

The BMS runs courses all year round on menopause and HRT, as well as holding an annual conference over several days. No one can force GPs to attend but considering 50% of their patients are women, and every single one will go through menopause, they ought to get up to speed.

Even reading the NICE guidelines would be a start FGS!

It's a very neglected area of medicine - women are stoical and tend to put up with stuff- but if they were more demanding of GPs and stood their ground (or voted with their feet and saw drs who know their stuff) things might slowly change.

I think the NHS ought to be up to speed and provide what women want, but medicine is part of a consumer society and there are other options.

I hope your friends get on ok- sounds a pretty dire situation for each of them.

picklemepopcorn · 21/04/2017 15:43

What annoys me about GPs not being experts is that 50% of their patients, and more than 50% of the patients that they see, go through this.

Why are they not moderately expert in it?

PollyPerky · 21/04/2017 15:46

Maybe women ought to ask those questions when faced with a GP who doesn't know much?

terrylene · 21/04/2017 15:54

There is loads of info available these days. It annoys the feck out of me that a GP in this day and age can declare that 'he does not do women's stuff', in a practice that only consists of 2 full time GPs and one part-time - in fact when he said this they only had locums standing in for the other full time one. Why not go to a larger practice where he can specialise? I think he just wanted a nice practice in the country. The trouble is, when you are rural, there is not much alternative available.

Some of the practices around here are joining together to share locums and expertise. There is some hope.

picklemepopcorn · 21/04/2017 21:57

I haven't needed to, but should I find myself there next week I most certainly will, Polly!

DevelopingDetritus · 22/04/2017 01:29

Unbelievable really how they can be so ignorant, they probably think it's a made up thing or couldn't care less, either way it's not on.

Aroundtheworldandback · 22/04/2017 20:18

One friend of mine won't discuss it in front of her husband; must think he'll go off her!

Mermaidinthesea123 · 22/04/2017 23:05

ha I tell everyone about the menopause, my son, my colleagues. I reckon I am doing a public service

PollyPelargonium52 · 09/05/2017 08:03

Totally agree with the op. And this is from people who are in their seventies too. Bit worrying that they didn't even notice what was going on with their bodies when they were going through it?? I am in my fifties perhaps it is a generational thing. I can talk about it to those my own age group but anything beyond that and their eyes just glaze over.

Yes very isolating.

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