Early menopause help

[Frillyknickers41]

I don't really know why I'm posting this other than looking for some reassurance that I'm not the only one.....

Strongly suspect I am going through the menopause (I am 35). Strong family history, periods have been erratic for a year - two episodes of no bleeding for 3 months during which I constantly stressed about being pregnant then several episodes of extremely short cycles - I am now bleeding for the fourth time this year, very heavily.

Saw my GP who tested my FSH (was 30) and have the next blood test next week. She says if the next bloods come back the same then that will be diagnostic and she will refer me to a specialist. She cannot prescribe HRT because I had a suspect PE after the birth of my daughter.

I am lucky that my family is complete so I am not mourning the loss of my fertility but I am so fed up of feeling like this. My husband is military and just coming to the end of a 6 month deployment. I am absolutely exhausted, I feel completely overwhelmed by everything. I am very worried about the impact of the way I am feeling on our sex life - even when Im not bleeding I don't think I'll want to have sex. Please tell me it might get better??

I suggest you read the Daisy Network website for women with POF. They have a forum and you can chat to the consultants online. There is a sub fee.

Your GP is right to refer you to a specialist. I don't know where you live but the early meno clinic at the Chelsea and Westminster is the best place in the UK, under the direction of Nick Panay.

It's not a given that you can't have HRT. You need bloods doing to check your clotting factor and transdermal HRT doesn't increase risks of clots anyway. A specialist would advise on this.
You do need expert care because if it is menopause you will need to balance the real risks of osteoporosis and heart disease against any risk of blood clots with HRT. You need a team of experts to help!