dodo- it does depend on exactly what your family history is.
This is from the NICE guidelines
.5 Long-term benefits and risks of hormone replacement therapy
Venous thromboembolism
1.5.1 Explain to women that:
the risk of venous thromboembolism (VTE) is increased by oral HRT compared with baseline population risk
the risk of VTE associated with HRT is greater for oral than transdermal preparations
the risk associated with transdermal HRT given at standard therapeutic doses is no greater than baseline population risk. [in other words, transdermal gives no more risk that not using HRT at all]
1.5.2 Consider transdermal rather than oral HRT for menopausal women who are at increased risk of VTE, including those with a BMI over 30 kg/m2.
1.5.3 Consider referring menopausal women at high risk of VTE (for example, those with a strong family history of VTE or a hereditary thrombophilia) to a haematologist for assessment before considering HRT.
The NICE guidelines also say , 'no automatic exclusion [from HRT] because of medical history.'
You can challenge your dr and ask for another opinion.
What kind of history is it? Just as an example, my maternal gran had a heart attack at 60 (she was very overweight) and died from a stroke at 81. My maternal uncle died from a heart attack at 51, my mum had a TIA at 80. I see a very good meno consultant and am assured that none of the above family history has any relevance for me. There is also recent evidence that HRT started before age 60 gives benefits in terms of heart disease and reducing arterial plaque.