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Menopause or something else ... not pregnat I'm 95% sure...

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MrTumblesBavarianFanbase · 02/11/2013 22:25

Hi!

I'm 38 and on the combined pill (microgynon), not forgotten any pills but I'm not sure my doctor fully took my weight into consideration when prescribing after I stopped breast feeding my 3rd child a year ago... (which I think is relevant maybe, though I really don't know what I am talking about - I am about 16 stone).

I have missed 2 "periods" (I know they are not true periods - pill free bleeds), but I am fairly sure I am not pregnant (not missed any pills or had any relevant illness or medication). Between scheduled pill free breaks I had one non scheduled bleed - lighter than a period but a lot more than an implantation bleed (I've never had an implantation bleed in 3 pregnancies, but I bled lightly for 5 days on about days 14-18, normal darkish blood).

I have been very angry for a good year - I only mention this as reading is suggesting it might be the menopause - I had assumed it was post natal and post stopping breast feeding, and most recently when is has peaked again (it was very bad a year ago, when I stopped breast feeding my youngest at 13 months old) for the last few months I have connected it to post-rescue dog adoption stress :o seriously I never knew taking on a rescue dog in a house full of small kids would tip me over the edge :o how stupid am I? :o

But in all seriousness I am wondering whether what is actually going on is the menopause. I really don't mind if it i, but I live abroad, and don't have a vey sympathetic gynaecologist (where I live the GP system is not really in operation and you self refer - love our GP but he's colds and flu and odd looking freckles, not "women's stuff" - myob/ gyne (who I had to go thorugh for my last 2 pregnancies and for smears) makes me feel like an animal at the vet, and doesn't explain anything, and is the only option unless I call in the troops, send the kids to MIL (which means 4 hours driving and a school holiday apt) and travel into "the city". I really don't want to have to tell my MIL I have gyne concerns... Helpful in a pinch though she is, we aren't that close on a personal level!

I really hope this makes sense and there are people on here who can advise me? menopause? What do you think? What should I do/ not do// look out for to be sure?

Thank you!!

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Clargo55 · 02/11/2013 22:42

Sorry I have no advice in regards to menopause, but I would take a pregnancy test just to get it ruled out. I know a few friends who have fallen pregnant on the pill, they all say it was taken correctly.

MrTumblesBavarianFanbase · 02/11/2013 22:57

Thanks for replying clargo55

I really hope I'm not pregnant - I hate to say it with people on this section of MN who are hoping otherwise, but although I absolutely love being a mum, and I desperately wanted DC3 and took a while to prepare DH, now we both feel our family is complete, and living my life in a foreign language with a DH who isn't a hands on type of dad, and a 2.5 year old who woke every hour through the night for 2 years and still wakes (thankfully no longer hourly) every night and is up at 4am, with me all day every day (lovely as he is, he is "full power" as they say locally) and with school age siblings needing to be out of the door at 7am and getting home at lunch time, and the nearest family-in-law hours away, so no napping opportunities, I don't think I could handle a DC4!!! I found 2 kids easy and thought I was good at motherhood Blush but DC3 is as much work as the older 2 put together, and then some, plus the age combinations and different demands are hard - I don't think I can do 4 DC given the 3 I already have in combination!

Anyway I don't "feel" remotely pregnant, and I've always "known" before or soon after missing my first period up til now - my older kids knew with DC3 too, without any hints my DD asked a week before I tested...

I really am pretty sure I'm not pregnant - more worried its a nasty thing ... cancer or tumours :( , relived if its menopause... if I'm pregnant I have no idea what to do... the other day I worried about it and wondered about a friend I've known since school who desperately wants a baby and has been trying for years, and whether she'd want to adopt... awful but I know life as it is in our house wouldn't survive another, DC3 has been as much as it will take I think! :( Blush but I really don't think I am pregnant anyway somehow!

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