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Why are women under 40 going through the Menopause...what the fuck is going on ? !!!

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erilou38 · 15/10/2013 22:19

I always thought that menopause was something that happened to women in their 50s. I had never heard of the 'perimenopause' until a few months ago and even then i didn't think that began until a woman was 45 plus. I'm just 38 years old and in the perimenopause or possibly even premature menopause. I believe this started when i was 34 or 35. I keep reading posts from ladies on here who are around my age and going through this. I don't know anyone in person who is though, at least none of my female friends seem to be. I feel quite isolated and alone. i know that fertility is meant to decline quite rapidly after 35 but i didn't imagine that menopause would kick in so soon. I'm suffering from quite a few menopausal symptoms such as mood swings, low mood, panic attacks, palpitations, bloating, irregular periods, hair loss and vaginal dryness. I have to say that this is making my life a misery, probably not helping that iv'e been trying to conceive for over a year now without success despite being very fertile in the past. I don't understand this and i don't like it. Why is menopause happening to women under 40 ? It never used to years ago. Is it something that is in our food these days which is causing early menopause ? I read an article recently that said that toxins and chemicals in make-up and various kinds of packaging were to blame. I never imagined 'the change' would be as bad as this and i certainly never expected it in my mid 30s. I feel like a dried-up useless old hag. I took HRT for a few weeks a couple of months ago but have since come off it as i had a very bad panic attack which i thought may have been a side effect of the HRT. Also, it seemed rather ridiculous that at 38 i was having to take a medication that is meant for old women. Plus HRT is made out of horse urine. Having been mad about horses since i was alittle girl it really upset me that these poor mares were forced to stand in stalls all day long with buckets strapped to them to catch their urine. I has hoped to go through the dreaded menopause somewhere in my 50s, then i wouldn't have had to have taken HRT. Now it seems i have little choice but to take it. I'm angry and think something needs to be done about this premature menopause phenomenon. Surely there is something that scientists can do to stop it happening in young women in the prime of their life or at least find the cause of it. This SHOULD NOT be happening!

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Donki · 15/10/2013 22:27

About 1 in 100 women have a very early menopause. This is not a new occurence.
It is shit for you though... sympathy (A fellow early menopausee, although it is now a decade since)

hackmum · 16/10/2013 09:09

I had my menopause at 39. My late mother had hers at 40. It's not a new phenomenon, just probably talked about more than it used to be.

Not all HRT is made out of horse urine, afaik.

Missbopeep · 16/10/2013 09:22

erilou Please go back and talk to your dr. You need HRT now as medication to prevent osteoporosis in your 50s, and also heart disease.

There are very few types of HRT made with mares' urine- namely those starting with 'Pre' like Premarin, Prempack etc. These are not prescribed much these days -many prescribed types of HRT are made from yam and are bio identical.

I don't think there is any evidence to say that more women are having early menopause- I think the stats have stayed the same for decades- have you done some research?

There have always been women who have had early menos- mums of my 2 close friends went through meno at 38-ish and they are now in their 80s. One has severe osteoporosis which is why you need to take care.

Age of meno is inherited- so if your mum went through it young the odds are you will but it's not always the way.

PatCh987 · 25/11/2013 15:07

has .anyone tryd serenity cream?

fidelma · 28/11/2013 07:23

I am 39 and going through the perimenapause. It's hard to get my head round. However it could go on for years!

YoDiggity · 28/11/2013 07:26

The perimenopause is not the menopause though. So all these women going through it are doing just that - noy going through the menopause. the perimenopause can start quite early and drag on FOREVEEEEERRRRRRRRRRRRR..........

erilou38 · 28/11/2013 19:29

Hope i'm not too far into it yet...just been given Clomid today to regulate my cycles and ovulation. I just want a baby first and then perimenopause can do what the hell it likes with me!!

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crazynanna · 28/11/2013 19:32

I'm nearly 51 and am still in the Peri Hmm

ipswichwitch · 28/11/2013 19:42

I see women in their 60s, 70s and 80s (at work) who went through an early menopause. It is by no means a new phenomenon, but was probably never talked about much.

HRT is not recommended as an osteoporosis preventative any more (NICE guidance) - if you go through the menopause before 45 you should have a DEXA scan and if it shows osteopenia/osteoporosis then the correct treatment (calcium + vit d or bisphosphonate) started.

DisappointedHorse · 28/11/2013 19:47

My Mum had her menopause at 34.

I'm 40 and so far ok - ish. I have about 3 months a year where I get a period a fortnight but otherwise a reasonably regular cycle. I had a blood test which said I'm not menopausal but suspect I may be in the peri menopause. I don't think it detects that.

My periods have got heavier and more painful.

You're certainly not alone OP.

erilou38 · 28/11/2013 21:29

I really dothink i started meno around 34/35. I'm still ovulating, although probabl not regularly. Just so hoping to have just one more child with my lovely husband who has no children of his own. Doubt i will be able to manage it but am trying to be positive. As soon as i get my new baby i will be more than happy to start HRT.

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