Is it all doom and gloom? Is there anything funny about the menopause, come and share...

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Am now 'under the nurse' to have bloods/weight monitored/BP etc after limited success with EPO and black cohosh.

I've had insomnia, raging mood swings, bloating, irregular bleeding (despite mirena), weird pains, ache, nausea blah blah blah

DH has sat down today and said 'well, let's call this what it is. it's the menopause, so what can i do to help'

he's still alive

instead of shouting 'fuck off' i think i rescued it by saying, 'please just carry on as normal, do nothing'

No. All doom and gloom here. Only doomier and gloomier because DH not sympathetic, unlike yours!

And i've only just started the process....probably got years to go yet.

i know, i should have been more grateful, and i am, honestly, but it's the menopause, not an illness

Well, I might never need a hot water bottle again nor do I need to turn on the heating in September, which I suppose are plus points though not exactly funnies.

meditrina

exactly what i said yesterday, saves on a new winter coat too

(adds frugal to list of positives)

Hi I an new to all this and have just been searching for info and found this site. I don,t even know if I am doing this right as my head is all over the place lately ! Its very interesting and informative and slightly funny in a weird way that I don,t seem to be alone in all this, or am I ? It would be good to hear if anyone else has been going through the same as me, I,m a young 51 year old, hysterectomy at 30 but one ovary left and everything fine until 3 months ago. Suddenly woke up with very bloated tum that goes up and down, worse at night - went to docs had all blood tests including ovarian cancer, all clear so thinking irritable bowel, but now am feeling slightly spaced out and not really here also with horrible dragging feeling in pelvic area similar to period pain along with the bloating. Docs now sending me for a scan not really sure why ! Maybe I have been nieve or in denial but after lots of reading I am convinced it is the start of the menopause, would anyone out there relate to my symptoms or am I just going mad or really ill. Anyone please tell me !

Doom and gloom here as well with the prospect of a few more years of it.

Today is a good day. Last week was awful. Not doom & gloom.....just the knowledge that the menopause never goes away, there is no such thing as 'post'. We may get over the worse of the hot flushes but some symptoms never go away...and some just get worse. But i'm alive :) and kicking .

mandy as you've had the all clear for ovarian cancer, they're probably scanning to check for any other obvious causes - maybe fibroids. They may find nothing, or something that cannot be cured like adenomyosis but can be managed symptomatically. Or maybe they'll discover nothing in particular, and put it all down to hormones having a last fling. I get some cycles which are so 'quiet' as to be unnoticeable, and others where every single PMT symptom somes flying at me. Not exactly fun, but adds variety to life.