somebody please help

[kazmus]

I am a 53 year old who has not had a period in over 2 years. I am struggling to cope with the death of my beautiful 24 year old daughter 5 months ago following heart surgery. My emotions are all over the place and last week had a bleed. I dont know whether to tell my doctor or if its just a reaction to my over whelming grief. I cant bear the thought of entering a hospital again so soon, as we spent 5 long months in hospital wards before she died and I cant face it again. Please help me and tell me what to do. i feel so run down and a wreck.

Kazmus, I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter. I cant imagine the stress and sadness you must be experiencing now.

I think you ought to get checked by your GP. I realise that this will bring back lots of difficult memories but your daughter would want you to take care of yourself and remain healthy.

Have you a friend who could accompany you to the doctors?

There's not much 'traffic' on this thread so the response to your post will be low. Perhaps you will find more support from others on the Bereavement/loss thread too as well as the Health thread too.

HTH

It's unexplained bleeding so I think you should see your doctor. Don't give up on yourself. Take care.

I was told to go to the doctors if I bled again after a 12 month gap - I am much the same age as you.

It may be some comfort to you to know that although I haven't made it to the 12 months yet, the timing of my last two periods was undobtedly stress driven, so the awful stress you have been under may well have been a trigger. But still go to the doctor as soon as you can, just to be sure.

So sorry about your loss - I cannot begin to imagine how it must hurt.

I am so sorry to hear of your loss.

You do though need to look after yourself now, too.

You must go to the drs.

It is quite likely to be nothing, and possibly a hormonal blip due to stress. However, your dr should refer you to a gyane for investigations.

If it is any comfort, I had investigations for odd bleeding last year. I had a endometrial sampling done which is straight in, straight out in drs surgery. I also had a pelvic scan the after another bought of bleeding I had a hysteroscopy- camera in uterus. I was awake for all of these and got the train back home, on my own, afterwards.

Please go and seek help.

so so sorry to read your news. please do go to the dr, could well have been due to your stress level but still important to get yourself checked out, so sorry x

Thank you ladies, I took myself off to the doctor today and she has made a referal for all the above tests pronto at the local hospital. Told me to take a friend with me as likely to be emotional but said I had done the right thing, so thanks for the prods in the right direction.