hystorectomy or not??

[MissTired]

i have recently found out my partner cant have kids, i have issues which seem to mean its unlikely though they wont test further as my partner cant anyway and i have a son so not eligible for ivf on nhs anyway so im thinking of asking about getting a hystorectomy, ive always had horrible painful, irregular and heavy periods and feel that actually im not planning on splitting with dp and even if we did my chances of concieving are slim and the stress weve had ttc i dont want that again, in the future should we split and i met someone else if we were to want kids together id prefer to look into adoption than go though the ttc hell again anyway!

would the gp be likely to agree to refer me for one or is it unlikely does anyone know?? im 30 in october, my son is 4.7 and we were trying for almost 3 yrs to concieve before discovering my partners problem and the fact they wont investigate further into mine. there is no way we want to go down the donor sperm route or ivf due to money and chance that it could well not work anyway given i rarely ovulate!!

any doctors here who might know, or anyone been in similar situation and asked about a hystorectomy??

[MissTired] I'm not an expert but it seems that a hysterectomy is a bit extreme.

I did have an endometrial ablation (womb lining removed) which stopped the heavy periods, but I was older than you and had definitely decided that my family was complete (had the tubes cut at the same time). This was a minor op and I was completely over it in a few days. I don't know if this would help painful periods, though.

I hope that someone more qualified than me answers your post. I'm sorry that things haven't turned out well for you and your partner re having more children. It sounds as if you have a lot of decisions ahead and I hope all turns out well for you.

I had one last summer, but as a solution to bad smear test results and a high risk of cancer. So no advice on whether your GP would suggest one in your situation but I can tell you about the op and recovery if you do go ahead. It's not that bad TBH, better than my emergency CS anyway.

But IMO 30 seems pretty young to have one. I was 35 with 2 dc's when the consultant suggested I had mine, he wouldn't do it any sooner.

I have discussed similar issues with gynaecologist and he made clear that a hysterectomy is only a very last resort.

Age is a huge factor in case you want further kids partly. Also depending on the type of op it is likely you would go into early menopause and that is not something to be done early is possible because of the associated risks.

Unlesss there is more in your medical history I suspect doc would go down the route of ablation which is what was suggested to me too, but even then they would have to be convinced that you really didn't want any more kids.

TBH if you talk to a doc the way you have in your op then they might be reluctant. Talking about problems ttc and considering adoption etc etc sounds very much like more children are in your mind for the future potentially so unless your symptopms are really interefering with your lifestyle they may be reluctant to do anything.

I doubt any dr would go down that route as a means of sorting out your periods or your fertility. As others have said, there are other options to control heavy bleeding without major surgery. If you do not want more children ever, why not opt for sterilisation and see what they can do for your periods.

I had horrible heavy periods too. Hysterectomy was talked about, but in the end I went for the Mirena coil. Its an excellent treatment for really awful periods, and of course (it might be important you just never know), its not making you infertile for ever. Had mine for 3 years, havent had a moments trouble, no bleeding whatsoever for about 2 1/2 years, bit of irregular spotting first few months, but once that settled, its been absolutely fantastic. Ask your GP or FP clinic about it.