19 month old biting and hitting!

[jalou28]

Hello, My 19 month old son seem to lash out at me alot, when he cant get his own way or even sometimes for no reason at all. He will come over to me and hit or bite me.
I am doing 'time out' with him, i get him to sit still in a place i can see him, and explain what he has done wrong, hows its not nice to bite etc.. Then when hes calmed down i go to him and he gives me a cuddle.
But this has been going on months!! He is getting no better!
Can anyone suggest anything? He also does this to my parner and my mum!

My 18 month old daughter is much the same. I've tried all the techniques (which were quite successful with ds at this age) & nothing is working. She has been doing it since she turned a year. It is definately a frustration thing with her as she never does it without 'reason'. I really sympathise , i'm just hoping she'll grow out of it. Failing that maybe we could put them in the same room & let them thrash it out together ........

I do tell him in a firm voice no hitting/ bitting at the time it seems to work, but he still does it the next time.
I think it might be a frustration thing sometimes, as when he cant do something himself he gets angry so i try to help then he hits me.
Lately i have had great trouble getting him in the car seat, i try to distract him by saying' look at the plane' him while putting him in, but he turns into a wild animal pulling my hair screaming and kicking! Then usually whines the whole of the journey!! Its very embaracing if people are watching.

My DD has taken to coming out of her car seat now! I don't know how she manages it but she twists & turns her body & wriggles out of the straps. Is your ds your 1st child? If it's any consolation they say you don't get two the same! My dd is payback as ds was so good! Though it's not nice , it's great for me to talk to someone whose child has a similar temperament , all the children in our toddler group seem so 'well behaved'!

It is definitely frustration due to limited ability to communicate what they want. And also they are beginning to learn how to have "control" over their lives, therefore don't understand when they are made to do something or made to stop doing it.

My dd did this and so do many other children i know. It is purely a phase and provided you deal with it in an appropriate manner - which you are! they will stop once they can communicate more verbally, or once they get bored of the routine of having to sit still.

Be careful not to make too much fuss about it otherwise it can back fire and they can do it to gain the attention from you when they are bored.

He is my ist child although i had been a nanny for about 8 years, so i learnt all the stuff they teach you at college.
But with the children i worked for when they had tantrums it didn't seem so bad as they were not mine. Also none of them hit bit me luckily!

Sorry about all my spelling mistakes ! I am typing too fast!

Hi there, my ds is now 5 my dd is 21 months. My ds starting biting on his 1st bday he was rather overwhelmed with all the gifts and thought we were going to take them away and he bit me,this carried on for a few months and then he grew out of it when we went to a toddler group. My dd however has started taking temper tantrums and biting the kids at toddler group. I also do time out and if she bites her brother she is put in her cot for 2 mins as she is nearly 2. She hates this and has not bitten her brother for a few weeks. At toddlers if she bites I take any toys from her,make eye contact and say no biting if she continues being naughty towards another child she is strapped in her pushchair for 2 mins she also hates this and when she is taken out from this time out she plays beautifully and so far it seems to be working. But do remember all kids are different and will react differently what works for one won't work for another !

Hello, i have a just turned 20 month of daughter who for months bites,pinches,pulls hair, and when i get down to her level and say that hurts its naughty she smiles,she also attacks my son and husband, she has to go and sit in the naughty corner and sometimes understands what she has done, other times its straight over her head.