Party Invitations!

[pinetree44]

Help! I’ve stumbled into unknown territory and I’m not sure how to approach this dilemma. My daughter has her 5th birthday coming up so we are throwing her a party. She wants to invite everyone in her class apart from three boys who she says are ‘the naughty boys’. I think these boys might be a bit boisterous… There are four boys she is inviting though. I asked her this morning whether we should just invite them so no one feels left out (if word gets out), but she got quite upset about it. I know one of the boy’s mothers and don’t want to create any bad feeling, but also don’t want to upset my daughter. What do I do?! Help!

I would say poor form to invite everyone except three kids so either invite the whole class or around half, so it’s not just a few that are excluded

It depends whether there are six children in the class and 50% are invited, which would be fine. Otherwise it’s just excluding others which is the sort of behaviour that tends to come under bullying policies.

Perhaps the boys have SEN or perhaps your daughter does and misreads situations. Either way, it’s also not acceptable to label five year olds as naughty and I would expect any school to reprimand your daughter if they hear her doing so, so I recommend you step in and parent her to prevent her growing up to be so judgemental.