Anyone based in East London or London in general? How to make new friends as an adult?

[SassyS89]

Does anyone have any ideas on how to make new friends as an adult? I'm 33 years old with 2 kids and I'm so lonely ☹️ I literally have 1 close friend who is married with a child so she is always busy with family activities, so I can't really call her to do anything whenever I'm free. I would love to meet people, but I don't know how! Is anyone else in the same boat?

How old are your kids?

Have you tried the Peanut app? X

No idea. Everyone is in their own little bubble with no room for anyone new. It's so depressing

I'm in East London. There is a going out in London group on Facebook that I've made friends though. Feel free to DM me

I'm East London, three kids under 10. No real friends so I hear you. Don't know what the answer is. I'm in my 40s though so older. Definitely finding it much harder to make friends than I did when younger.

Try a community choir. I made loads of friends that way (although I’m not east London so can’t recommend one)
or if you prefer sport look for a social netball or running club
join the pta at school
look on your local library notice board for clubs
join a book club
if you have time to volunteer, you will meet lots of lovely people
talk to other mums in the playground and swap numbers

My kids are 9 and 7. I do have the numbers of my kids friends mum's (my closest friend is one of them), but I'm not close to all of them to the point where they would call me to go out and vice versa. The ones I am closest to are married/in a relationship so when I'm free during the weekend, they are not as they are busy doing family activities. I'm finding life really hard at the moment, so it really has been getting me down

I downloaded the peanut app yesterday actually but I haven't been able to register because the app won't send me the code!

Thanks - if you could DM me any details that would be great 🙂

When my DC were small I belonged to something called the Housewives Register. It has changed its name but still exists. We also had a local Parents group that met once a month for coffee in someone’s house and also had monthly evening talks. We also used to run our own weekly playgroup in the summer holidays. I’m sure if you put up a flier in your local surgery you could get something started.
Are you on the FB groups for your area and the What’s Ap chats? I’m sure you will find others in the same situation.
If you have regular free time I would suggest joining a class whether it’s Pilates, Zumba or painting. I made a two very good friends through an art class and I met my best friend at a sewing class many years ago.

Following for ideas.

I’m South East London and it is so hard isn’t it.
i tried so hard to make friends when I was on maternity leave 4 years ago but they have all since moved out of London. I have one really good friends but things have gotten a bit distant lately and it has made me feel so so lonely. I didn’t realise how much I relied on her for chat/social contact until things became distant.

sorry that is no help to you at all. Ha but just wanted to say you aren’t the only one.

good luck and if you come up with anything let me know.

Im in SE Londom, literally other side of the blackwall tunnel. 33 with a 10 year old boy. Find it so hard to make friends as an adult!

SW London here, older DC (13 and 11) so Peanut not relevant...feel the same as you OP.

I live in se London and agree it’s very hard to make friends as an adult, I never made friends at the school gates and making friends on apps doesn’t appeal to me

Given your children’s ages are you back working? That’s a great way to meet people, and you have two if the world’s great employment centers on your doorstep, Canary Wharf and the City.

Same here!

Let's meet!
Stratford Olympics park maybe?

Would be happy to meet anyone from this side of London - (sw) - good idea. 😁

I'm in!

I'm the same, I'm in Birmingham, I have children but find it hard to make new friends, sometimes I would like a normal conversation

I feel exactly the same as you, kids the same ages. Am friendly with a few school mums to chat to at gate, arrange playdates etc but only 1 I occasionally meet up with out of school.
Had lots of mum friends I met up with regularly when they were preschoolers but that all stopped now their at different schools and covid.
I'm east London, would love to meet up, Stratford would be a great location.

I'm a bit late to this but I'm east London too. Two children, 7 and 11, would love to meet other mums particularly single mums

Could you get a dog? Obviously your life and circumstances might not be able to accommodate it but I’ve made so many new friends by having one and talking to other dog walkers. I’m 33 and moved to a new area of London nearly 2 years ago where I didn’t know anyone and now have a good local group of friends just because we’ve all got dogs!

Great meetup group here if you want to meet new people and try out really good restaurants with a deal!

Check out London Meals, Drinks & Deals on Meetup https://meetu.ps/c/51HC7/1xScw/a