Age gaps - the good and the bad...

[Ilovemangos]

I've got a 9 yr old and a 7 month old !
My oldest daughter is a great help - she is so good that I feel guilty I can't spend as much time with just her anymore. I guess it gets easier as they grow up - does it?!!!?

I've got a similar age gap, dd was almost 8 when ds was born. Now 10 and 2. Anything 'special' has to be put away but they have such loving times and ds just idolises his big sis. We do things when it's his nap or at night, like play board games or bake. She's great at keeping him occupied if I'm trying to get something done. They've had a great summer together I think because she's older it's easier to understand that sometimes he has to come first.

We go on girly days and go into town, have lunch, go the cinema every couple of months, and 'the boys' do their own thing too.

Thanks for that Sammac - I think you're right; my oldest dd definitely understands bless her. Where are you from - I'm in North London

I'm just outside Glasgow- bit of a way from you

We also managed to spend a few days away with a friend and her daughter 2 weeks ago, so dd knows that things like that will happen. She also remembers what life was like 'before' ds, but still says the happiest day of her lfe was when he was born (bless!)- she can remember being told she was going to be a big sister and was so excited. Of course, there are days when this is the last thing on her mind.............