any older mums selby near york

[MamatoHoney]

i am mum to dd 2.5 in my lateish 30s i dont know anybody hear and feel a little isolated we live in a small village no other little children close

Hi
Just thought I'd say hello. I live near Selby. I have a 6 month old son & I'm very late 30's indeed - 40 next month! :(

hi i thought that nobody was out there i have just found your reply

Hi
There are a few of us in the same situation. I've met a couple of other mums through different sites & been out for coffee with them. I should start my own group! It's nice to go somewhere that isn't the doctors or the supermarket.
It's tough when you live in a village & don't know anyone. My DS is my first (& only) child & although I've lived in the same place for more than 10 years I don't really know anyone in the village because my whole life revolved around work. I'm not brave enough to go to the local toddler group in my own - what a wuss! - all the other mums I see around the village look so much younger than me.
I'm due to go back to work in September but I'm trying to work out whether I can afford to just work part-time. Are you a stay at home mum?
Helen

hi Helen i am almost the same a little shy about toddler groups i have tried but its just not me all seem very clicky and i just feel like an outsider i am not a sahm anymore was for about 18mnths now work reduced hours and always off one day a week to be with dd which village do you live in it would be a coincedence if it was mine we are not from hear moved hear about 3.5 years ago . i am 38 i am not shy but toddler groups are so intimidating . work was my life so i didnt have a great deal of a clue what to do withmyself when not working Clare.

Hi Clare
I'm in Riccall. Before I had my DS I just used it as somewhere to be when not working but now I'm looking at it as a parent it seems a good place to live - good school, child care, community centre etc.
I can't imagine not working but I'm very torn because my DS is my one and only chance to be a mum & I don't want to miss out on him growing up & regret it later. Unfortunately I'm a sad statistic, a single mum (long story) so it's down to me to support us both.
Whereabouts are you?
Helen

Hi Helen we are in burn i emperthise with you about not missing out on any tiny part i am the same i came to be a mum through strange circomstances so my dd really is a extreamly cherished child if i could halt all development to drink in every tiny stage of her i would she is growing up so fast . what do you do for your job.clare

Hi Clare
There doesn't seem to much at Burn, apart from the pub. I guess we're quite lucky to have as much as we do in Riccall in terms of shops, restaurants etc.
I work in Doncaster for the council. I like my job but the travelling is a pain. I would look for something closer to home but I'd probably struggle an employer as flexible and supportive. What do you do?
Helen

Hi Helen i am very fortunate to be a director of a care home company this being the fact has helped me to be off for such a long time i worked a long time filtering out sections of my job to employees knowing that i would be off for some considarable time going back to work i felt like the new girl all fingers and thumbs i was more interested in my daughters bowel movements than work i seem to have found a happy medium and use a mixture of childcare nursery two days and grandma two short days 10-2 .Burn has nothing to do you are right just the pub we have been once on qwiz night and won the dipstick award its one of my greatist acheivments not my fault of course muppety hubby hopefully talk later going in bath now with dd best wishes Clare

Hi Helen just wanted to say happy first mothers day i hope you have a lovely day we are having my mum and dad round for lunch so all very exciting dd is planning to dress up like cinderella best wishes Clare

Hi! & a happy mothers day to you too. :) It's my first & it will be spent changing nappies, singing silly songs (it keeps him entertained for hours) & shovelling food into my little angel - we've just started weaning - how can one spoonful of glop spread so far?!
You're very lucky being your own boss & I know what you mean about feeling like the new girl. While I've been away my department has been re-organised (something that happens about every 3 years in most local authorities, at much expense, with maximum stress but for no apparent gain - lol!). I went to visit a few weeks ago & didn't recognise half the faces. It will be awful when I have to go back.
My parents have offered to do some childcare but they're not getting any younger so I'm contemplating looking for a childminder. My mum will be furious.
It would be nice to communicate without having to go through this process but I've not worked out whether there is a system for sending personal messages or exchanging email addresses. Have you any idea? I hardly use this site so it was a bit of a fluke that I saw your post.
Anyway, it's bedtime. I hope you have a lovely day tomorrow.
Helen.

Hi Helen i hope mum day is going well mine is dh is cooking lunch waiting for mum and dad to arrive dd watching balamory she loves it . i dont have much clue about email adresses will ask hubby he is very good at things like that i would like to talk to you i am quite new to mumsnet only been on a couple of times once i asked if any mums in selby nobody replied so didnt try again for a long time felt like billy no mates. my m&d are elderly and in very poor health so childcare for dd not an option hubbys m&d quite fit so thay help out only grandchild aswell . i used a childminder when starting back at work then swapped to nursery which suited me and dd better she is close to ware we both work so either can pick her up talk to you later Clare

Hi Clare
I hope you had a lovely day. My first mothers day wasn't great. I didn't get a card & my present consisted of a really dirty nappy & a bumper crop of bogies! :)
My cousin had a baby a few weeks ago. She got lots of gifts lavished on her today by her lovely hubby. Still, as my family keep pointing out, I should have been more conventional & had a baby when I was married & before I was nearly dead. Bless them!
I sat down & did some maths today. I think I can just about afford to live on half pay so I've decided to ask if I can go back to work part-time. We'll have to go without some luxuries but I'd rather do that than work ridiculous hours and only see him at weekends. My ex phoned & I suggested life would be a bit easier if he contributed something. He found the idea very amusing. Swine!
Oh well, bedtime again.
Take care
Helen

Hi Helen it sad about your first mothers day not getting even a card i dont mean to sound judgmental but i would have liked to think that somebody would have got you a card on behalf of your son saying to the best mum even from your ex no matter what the circomstances of the split he sounds like a right prize guy . got to go now dd will not eat porridge till i come will post later clare

Hi Helen sorry about dashing off this morn dd loves playing dh like a deck of cards it sounds like you became a mum under strange circumstances but what will be will be your son is meant to be here . have you tried mashed advocardo for your son dd loved it its one of her favourites not mashed of course now that and olives . we have been to a third birthday party today dd loved it bless she stayed awake all the way from wakefield raving about the ride on cars . so glad that financially you may be ok to cut hours when will you approach them i know somebody that transfered to another authority to get part time hours leeds to york worked out for her less travelling so more time with baby. anyway going now to get a glass of wine long day at work tommorow dd at nursery month ending accounts to do tommorow very exciting .talk to you soon best wishes Clare.

Hi Clare
I've recovered from my mothers day sulk!
My circumstances are more sad than strange. I never intended to have children so I was shocked to find out I was pregnant. My partner said get rid, I said no so he ended the relationship. He's never seen his son or supported him in any way. I'm devastated that my ds really hasn't got a Dad. I'm not sure how I'll explain it to him when he's older.
Not tried avocado yet. We're trying butternut squash tomorrow. So far he's eaten everything I've offered but today he discovered that he can blow raspberries with a mouthful of food. I was covered!
I'm going to phone my boss sometime in the next couple of weeks. She'll be very surprised because I had been chasing a promotion before I went on maternity leave. It's amazing how your priorites change. I could never imagine myself as a parent but now I wish I'd done it years ago.
I'm off to bed now but I must look at this site tomorrow and work out how we can exchange details to cut out the middleman. Emailing would be much easier.
Have fun with the accounts!
Helen

Hi Helen i to have some serious explaning to do when older i will tell you when we have swap email details mine also sad . i always have wanted to be a mum but also wish we were mum &dad a lot younger but she is worth waiting for motherhood is so much more than i ever dreamed of i love it anyway this is my email bennnic2ataol.com at is one of curly things i cannot find on the keypad anyway back to the accounts best wishes clare talk to you soon