Looking for a Yummy Mummy to accompany me to a party in B'ham.

[Treadmillmom]

Hello, I'm a married mom of 3 aged 40 and I ain't done partying yet. I can't afford to go out lots but goddam I'm so bored of not having the opportunity to get dressed up and have a real laugh and a dance with some innocent flirting thrown in.
Anyway, I've been invited to a 40th at a club in B'ham city centre on Sat 14th Apr and everyone around me has opted for slippers and cocoa.
I desperately wanna go, it'll be old skool vibes R&B, Garage, Raga, Soca too I guess.
I've hinted about going alone but DH just glared at me, wanna come with me?

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I can't find it either. Odd.

Oh such a shame that I live no where near birmingham and I'm not free tomorrow night

I always miss the MN meet ups!

OMG stop it you guys. This is totally genuine. That is how desperate I am for a night out I'm willing to take my chances and meet a female stranger (sorry UnChartered) for drinks first, prior to going to the club.
I'm married, 40 and have 3 children.
My social life is dwindling before my very eyes and I hate it.
I love getting dressed up and having a night out but they are becoming rarer and rarer by the minute.
I feel so frustrated I could eat my own face off!
This Easter half term every friend has gone all 'term time only' on me, I've seen no-one.
DH originally agreed to accompany me to this party and then changed his mind, I have no idea when my next night out is gonna be.
And this party is exactly the vibe I need, mature crowd, R&B and a bit of Reggae and now you all think I'm an internet perve.
Really very now, Britain's Got Talent AGAIN here I come.
I'd gladly go alone and see what the night brings but DH would not be impressed.

Hi tread. Just go on your own, be sociable and you ll meet people there. It's not my scene and I'm out for dinner or I would have taken you up on your offer. How about getting a sitter and your hubby goes with you?

yes, getting a babysitter might be the easier option?

DH changed his mind, doesn't want to go.
I have the confidence to go alone but DH would really be pi**ed off if I did.

i hope you've told you DH where to get off and are preparing for a night out, Tread?

just because he doesn't want to go, he'd be pissed off if you went? - that would MAKE me go on my own. He's being a bit selfish there

I've tried my best to persuade him but he won't be moved, says what kind of husband would he be to allow his wife out on the streets of B'ham City Centre on a Saturday night on her own? Obviously I argued I'm not a child, I'll buy my own drinks and not leave any unattended, but the answer is still no.

really?

this is what your DH said?

he does realise it's 2012 and not 1912 doesn't he?

seriously? so you won't go because he won't "let" you?
crazy

Does he think it's safer to go with a random from the internet?

He won't let you go oout alone but will happily let you go out to meet up with a virtual stranger you found yourself on the internet

Err, he doesn't know I was touting for a 'date' shh.

what kind of husband would he be to allow his wife out on the streets of B'ham City Centre on a Saturday night on her own?

The Daily Mail has a lot to answer for! Birmingham is incredibly safe at night, there are street wardens and taxi rank wardens, and lots of people just wanting to have fun. For those that over-do things there are even paramedics with a local base. As long as you're sensible and don't go home with strangers then there is no risk. I may not go out as often as I used to but I have never seen any trouble in Birmingham, unlike when I used to go out in nearby small "middle class and naice" towns - now they really are rough!

Well, I did go out and I had a brilliant night.
I joined a social group called City Socialising a few weeks ago, a site where you can meet people and make friends, anyway, on visiting the site yesterday I saw they were having a new members drink at a bar in B'ham. DH said he felt a bit more relaxed about that as a number of women I'd been 'talking' to were attending.
So, off I went. A room full of like minded strangers, we drank and talked and got to know each other.
At 1am most had decided to head for a club in town, armed with renewed confidence I headed for the party.
The venue was not so nice, some of the men looked well dodgy, so relieved none of you said you'd go, I would've been very embarrassed. I thought I'll have one drink, show my face and get the hell outta there.
Luckily, apart from the b'day boy, I did see someone I knew, the music was good and I left at 4am!
Woowoo.

:)