i really need help with bath times

[kellyk]

hi my name is kelly i have a 3 month old daughter and i cant get her in the bath, ive tried the kitchen sink the bath with me even rubber ducks and distraction with no avail.... she screams and goes bright red and holds her arms out and grabs hold of me like she is petrefied and its really upsetting me as well to give her a bath please could any1 help i'm @ my wits end!!!! thank u

love kelly xxxxxxx

don't bother bathing her if she hates it so much, KellyK - just give her a top and tail wash instead.

I'd agree, don't bother bathing her, just wash bits. They don't get that dirty at three months, anyway.

My DS2 (12 months) goes through phases, at present he's ok with the baby bath, sometimes, when it's on the floor, so he can climb in and out himself.

He did used to like bathing with me, but that was because of the boob buffet experience.

I would second dinny. we didn't bath ds for the first time until he was about 8 weeks, because he didn't seem very happy with it.

Maybe you could not give a bath for a while and see how she is. A baby that age really doesn't need bathing if it make them unhappy.

Just in case the same thing happens to you - after 8 weeks he was just about happy in the bath, but screamed blue murder when we took him out.

I posted about it and some clever mumsnetter suggested that we make sudden meep meep noises when moving him between the bath and the towel. Worked a charm - he was so surprised he didn't cry. We only had to do it for a few weeks and now he is fine.

On reflection we are lucky we don't have any near neighbours though, as must have sounded pretty weird.

Good luck

Me too, i would leave it a few weeks.
But i would try to include her in activities in the bathroom, so for instance, when you are bathing, have her in her chair with you at the side of the bath so she can see you. Have her in there when you clean your teeth etc so that she is ok with bieng in the room.
Get her some bright coloured bath toys and let her play with them outside the bath for a while then let her see you drop them in the bath with you or even when its not got water in it, hold her and drop them in.
Just gradually introduce her to it.

My dd used to do that when I was bathing her. I think she picked up on my fear that I would let her slip out of my hands - it was probably my vice-like grip that made her cry

Don't bath her for a while til you're both more comfortable with topping and tailing, then try washing her in the washing up bowl in front of the tv or something? We ended up really enjoying having a quick bath during Corrie!

i dont know about you kelly but i was absolutely terrified of bathing my dd...she hated it too. i was so frightened of her slipping. have you tried a bath seat at all? as soon as i got one dd seemed ok with the whole bath thing, it made me more relaxed..and maybe that rubbed off on her or maybe she just felt more secure in the seat as mummy was a gibbering wreck with shaking hands, but it did the trick!

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if you are worried the baby will sense it. Does it matter what time of day you do it?

This might help ? Tummy Tub

If she can hold her head up she can sit in a Bumbo, and they can be used in the bath. Toys r us sell them. We started both our boys in the bath by getting in with them. They both love baths now.

thanks for all your help n suggestions gonna try some and fingers crossed it wont b as worrying

xxxxxxx