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Oh so furious with myself.

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OrlandointheWilderness · 29/11/2023 09:50

I'm 8 weeks into year 3 of a nursing degree. I'm withdrawing this week, after fighting against my better instincts for 2 years. Staying is NOT an option, this bloody experience has made me ill with stress and given me bad panic attacks. I'm so furious that I didn't withdraw earlier, I'm now stuck and I'd love to do a degree in an area I actually want to work in but obviously student finance won't fund. I'm bloody lost.

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Vickivicks · 30/11/2023 08:30

Firstly what a brave decision to make. Don't underestimate the significant transferable skills you will have learnt from the course.

It sounds like you are beyond the point where you would change your mind but have you spoken to your tutors about possible options. Is there any way you could convert to another health care career without needing to start again or are you future career aspirations no longer aligned at all to your current degree.

Best of luck whatever decision you make.

Unex · 30/11/2023 09:08

I'm sorry you're feeling lost and furious with yourself.
Please remember you made those decisions genuinely and you thought you were doing the right thing at the time.
You weren't to know it wouldn't work out.
Are you able to re/group and give yourself a bit of time before you make any long term plans?
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RADIOOFF · 30/11/2023 15:14

Sorry to read this, @OrlandointheWilderness - you must have been having a hard time.

Please say you’re getting full support from your tutors, Student Services and the Careers department?

Candleabra · 30/11/2023 15:15

How awful for you. Can you transfer credits into another course?

SamphiretheTervosaurReturneth · 30/11/2023 15:29

Ex lecturer here

Do not leave without first getting all the support you can from whatever support you can get from your university.

You never know what someone might be able to offer or suggest that sparks both relief and new ideas for you.

They have a duty of care to you, so make them do everything they can to make your next move as well thought out and supported as it can be.

Best of luck

pancakes222 · 01/12/2023 19:04

I'm sorry you are feeling lost. I agree with the previous poster it's very brave to say when enough is enough.

If it isn't too painful to ask, can I enquire what about the course has had that effect and what made you finally decide to leave? I had been considering it myself as a change of career but see a lot of people on here feeling similar to you with the demands of going into nursing.

CesareBorgia · 01/12/2023 19:06

You've probably already considered this, but would there be any option for you to transfer somewhere else to do the final year of your degree?

wagnbobble · 01/12/2023 19:10

Student Finance will potentially give your four years funding - call them asap to stop further payments of tuition fees to the university . Can you pay back some or all of your maintenance loan ? Book an appointment asapwith the university careers service and find out what you want to do . You won’t think it now but this is actually a positive step you’ve found out that nursing isn’t for you but there is your real future career out there

Breakingpoint1961 · 01/12/2023 19:14

Hi OP, I'm also curious as to why you feel the way you do. My DD is a nurse, she's in education (clinical skills) now but I remember that degree all too well. Many a time the towel was going to be thrown in, and the main reasons? The placements, the staff working there.

There was one placement that nearly finished her, she was a wreck, and I swear now if I ever see that 'nurse' I will tell her exactly what I think of her. These individuals can break the students, and the universities do absolutely nothing about it. I work in the NHS, we have many students and they are treated with the utmost respect, but many many aren't, and that's the cold hard truth.

OP you've come this far, please think long and hard. Good luck x

spacewitch99 · 01/12/2023 19:21

Lecturer here - pre registration nursing. Enquire about transferring onto another programme of study. Huge number of transferable skills in the nursing programme. As long as you have passed everything so far, there should be no issues. Don’t throw the baby out with the bath water x
And best of luck with whatever you choose. Nursing is not for everyone and it’s better to have realised it now x

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