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Career change and feeling like a disappointment

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careerchangee · 16/11/2021 10:02

Hello,

I have name changed for this but have been a member for years..

Basically I started a nursing (adult) degree in September 2020 and due to a few different circumstances I left after a few months (I was a SAHM prior) and the sudden change (along with Covid etc) saw me just struggling and I was finding it really hard to adjust.
I took a year out at Xmas and have been feeling this way since March...

Fast forward to now and I have decided to return on a different course (based at home apart from placements and a skills session) however I have been employed by a rather large company (well known if I told you - think civil service)
And I only work three days a week when my DS is in nursery.

Initially, my mum and grandma etc was disappointed with my decision to leave my degree but understood my reasons. Now I have decided to return and my mum cannot hide her disappointment that I'm returning to a profession (she already works for the NHS and loves her job) she didn't want me to leave in the first place.

My partner is really supportive of my decision and the rest of my family are excited for me but I feel I can't even mention it around her as she just gives snide remarks and disapproving looks and it's just written all over her face.

How can I continue with not second guessing my decisions, I know I have confidence issues and take what others think into account MASSIVELY. Maybe I needed to vent this or reach out to get others advice.

Not sure if it's relevant but I'm 27 and my DS in nursery school age. One of the reasons for returning now is I would rather do this now than when my DS is a lot older and I have settled into a job that I maybe do or don't enjoy.

I'm not naive to the pressures and struggles of nursing I fully understood this during my time within my previous degree.

Thank you for your advice! Smile

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Howshouldibehave · 16/11/2021 10:13

Now I have decided to return and my mum cannot hide her disappointment that I'm returning to a profession (she already works for the NHS and loves her job) she didn't want me to leave in the first place.

I don’t get this-why is she disappointed you are returning to nursing when she didn’t want you to leave?

Why did you leave and what has changed?

careerchangee · 16/11/2021 12:37

@Howshouldibehave

Various reasons why I left, my DS didn't settle into nursery well AT ALL and that had a knock on effect that it made me hate leaving him, he's come along amazing and now loves nursery. Around the time my mental health took a dive and felt I couldn't cope with leaving him / committing to patients on placements..

The whole not wanting me to leave / now not wanting me to go back is something I have brought up but she claims I have found a good balance (the position I'm in is temporary until April) so no guarantees that I'll be given a permanent contract

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