I'm 5ft9 and 98kg trying to lose weight on keto diet.

[summerfinn]

I had my son three years ago now and went from being 5ft 9 size 10 to 12 to being now a size 16. I'm miserable. I'm someone who loves clothes and was always considered good looking and glamorous to now feeling like Iv lost myself completely. I'm suffering from depression to add to that and was eating my feelings away. I started keto almost two weeks ago and have gone from 100kg to 98kg. Is that a good amount to lose or too little?

I just want to feel like my old self again and not look in the mirror and hate what I see. I want to go swimming and to the beach with my children in the summer and wear a swimsuit and not feel gross. I want to wear dresses and skirts again and get my sense of style back. Everything else in my life isn't great right now so I'm trying to focus on this one thing o may be able to control. I'm hoping my depression will get better too .

[Icecreamandapplepie]

I'm 5.10" and 14 stone. Like you, gone from size 12 pre kids to size 16 after.

Bleak.

No tips I'm afraid, just to say you aren't alone and it's a common thing to happen after having children.

You can do this.

[Random789]

Hi, op. That sounds like a great start to me. When I was low carbing (I have fallen off the wagon ), I found that (unlike other diets) it wasn't the straight-off-the-bat weight loss in the first couple of weeks that was gratifying, it was a longer term steady weight loss ove the next few months. Almost without feeling like I was dieting. So hang on in there (and measure your waist, too, as the losses there can be even more striking than the weight loss).

The other thing I wanted to say is that I understand your unhappiness, your self-loss, and the feeling of being trapped in eating in ways you dislike because of hating your body -- and hating your body because you are trapped in eaating in ways you don't want to. Be kind to yourself.

If you can hang on in there for long enough to feel all the varuous rewards, it will get easier. Not just weight and appearance - I felt stronger and healthier, more energetic, when low carbing. I could do more. Focus on all those other objectives as well as weight. xxx

[Darhon]

BIWI is the low carb high fat person to follow on here. I’ve done the diet before - I’m similar height to you but I’m older. My view is that women don’t get the massive drops some men do and it can be a steadier weight loss for them with the dreaded stalls. But tends to be more loss than with low fat diets I’ve done and you don’t have the awful gnawing hunger as the fat content is there.

That said, ultimately I prefer some carbs. So I work out with weights now - 3-4 times a week for 25 minutes, miss breakfast in the week, generally have eaten evening meal by 6-7pm, low carb (I just eat whole foods - so yoghurt, nuts, a couple of pieces of fruit. in the day but have carbs at night. It means I can eat relatively normally, have family meals and just low carb for the meals I am purely sorting for myself. I can eat more at weekends too.

[summerfinn]

@Random789

Hi, op. That sounds like a great start to me. When I was low carbing (I have fallen off the wagon ), I found that (unlike other diets) it wasn't the straight-off-the-bat weight loss in the first couple of weeks that was gratifying, it was a longer term steady weight loss ove the next few months. Almost without feeling like I was dieting. So hang on in there (and measure your waist, too, as the losses there can be even more striking than the weight loss).

The other thing I wanted to say is that I understand your unhappiness, your self-loss, and the feeling of being trapped in eating in ways you dislike because of hating your body -- and hating your body because you are trapped in eaating in ways you don't want to. Be kind to yourself.

If you can hang on in there for long enough to feel all the varuous rewards, it will get easier. Not just weight and appearance - I felt stronger and healthier, more energetic, when low carbing. I could do more. Focus on all those other objectives as well as weight. xxx

Thanks. It's harder to get this excess weight. Off them when I was 22 having my first. I'm 36 now and don't have the same metabolism at all. I do a lot better mixing in more exercise but I get so down somedays the most I can do is look after my kids.

[Random789]

It really is hard at that stage of parenting (Im past that now). It is very difficult to get enough time away from the minute-to-minute pressures of parenting to be able to spend the time you need to on yourself, for example exercising. Especially if you are depressed.

I think you should really feel good about what you have achieved so far, and reward yourself with as much self-care as possible - without punishing yourself when you find it just too hard to meet the goals you are setting yourself.

[summerfinn]

@Random789

It really is hard at that stage of parenting (Im past that now). It is very difficult to get enough time away from the minute-to-minute pressures of parenting to be able to spend the time you need to on yourself, for example exercising. Especially if you are depressed.

I think you should really feel good about what you have achieved so far, and reward yourself with as much self-care as possible - without punishing yourself when you find it just too hard to meet the goals you are setting yourself.

It really is hard. I went from having an older child aged 11 to having a newborn too. Now I have a 3 year old and 14 year old. I'm exhausted everyday as a stay at home mum. Plus battling depression. I think you made a good point I'm incredibly hard on myself. To the point of self hatred. I need to work on that.

[Random789]

Yes, but work on it kindly. Don't turn your self-hatred into another Thing That Is Bad About Me That I MUST Change.

Hopefully with your younger child at age three you will soon be moving into a stage of life where you will have at least the odd hour here and there (nursery school and then actual school) in which you could put your own needs first. xxx

[summerfinn]

@Random789

Yes, but work on it kindly. Don't turn your self-hatred into another Thing That Is Bad About Me That I MUST Change.

Hopefully with your younger child at age three you will soon be moving into a stage of life where you will have at least the odd hour here and there (nursery school and then actual school) in which you could put your own needs first. xxx

Yes the kind part is difficult. He started nursery last September because I have no family help with childcare and was desperately needing time to get better. Some mornings I do manage to exercise I have a exercise bike and apple fitness subscription which has spin classes and multiple different types of workouts like hit and core and weights ect . But lately I'm so burnt out from depression and family issues that after he goes to playschool I go back to bed. it's not good.

[onwardsup4]

@summerfinn

I had my son three years ago now and went from being 5ft 9 size 10 to 12 to being now a size 16. I'm miserable. I'm someone who loves clothes and was always considered good looking and glamorous to now feeling like Iv lost myself completely. I'm suffering from depression to add to that and was eating my feelings away. I started keto almost two weeks ago and have gone from 100kg to 98kg. Is that a good amount to lose or too little?

I just want to feel like my old self again and not look in the mirror and hate what I see. I want to go swimming and to the beach with my children in the summer and wear a swimsuit and not feel gross. I want to wear dresses and skirts again and get my sense of style back. Everything else in my life isn't great right now so I'm trying to focus on this one thing o may be able to control. I'm hoping my depression will get better too .

Hi, I feel exactly the same I'm 5'8 I have a good 20 lbs to lose at least, youngest is coming up to one and I need to sort it now before the summer. Dreading the beach , summer clothes , no idea what size I am as living in leggings and have no idea what clothes to buy or how to hide this stomach!
Started yesterday low carb and 800 cal deficit. Need to get serious !