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I am such an idiot

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whydididothis · 08/07/2010 19:57

regular namechanged.I made the very silly mistake of getting rather tipsy last night and joined a well known dating agency

I have never done anything like this sober and it is a big mistake because

1 i am not ready for a rl
2 no one int theri right minds would take me on anyhow.

can anyone tell me if and how i get the ad deleted and degregister feeling very silly atm!

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Gigantaur · 08/07/2010 20:00

just dont go on it again.

but why aren't you ready? and of course there will be people that would love to meet you, if all nthats holding you back is a bit of a confidence crisis then don't you dare delete it

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whydididothis · 08/07/2010 20:02

i would out myself if i explained.Lets just say now is deffo not the time.

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Gigantaur · 08/07/2010 20:03

so then keep the page, every now and then you can go check the page and see if there is anyone worth bringing you out of your shell.
at the least it will give you a confidence boost to see the hoards of fit fellas chasing you

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whydididothis · 08/07/2010 20:08

lol.

i am wondering what on Earth possessed me really.(other than the bottle of wine)had dreadul dreadful hangover today.

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Gigantaur · 08/07/2010 20:09

hee hee.

nothing says oops like a hangover

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whydididothis · 08/07/2010 20:17

i have e mailed them to ask them to delete the details.

i am NEVER drinking again

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stardust86 · 12/07/2010 16:33

Nothing wrong with a little online flirting even if you're not sure it's not the time just as long as you're honest with people?

overmydeadbody · 12/07/2010 16:37

That is no way classes you as an idiot.

Dating sites don't have to equal a relationship you know.

Perhaps the drunk part of you just wanted some flirting and confidence boosting.

gillybean2 · 13/07/2010 04:35

I agree with OP that you do need to be ready for a rl before joining a dating agency.

It's really hard to put yourself back out there when you know that 90% are going to be either rejections or people you should not go anywhere near.
You need to be strong enough to recognise this, deal with it and be able to say no to the ones who are just looking for a shag to use you without it setting you several steps back in dealing with any self esteem issues I you may have.

Your comment that no-one in their right minds would take you anyhow shows this. Even though I'm fairly certain you said this as a joke, I'm also pretty sure there's some element of truth in it in that you believe that (not that it is true, but if you think that of yourself then it is true to you).

So until you're in a place where you know you are a worthwhile, lovable and deserving person, you will only attract the wrong kinds of people in such sites and so again I agree you are not ready for it.

You will be ready at some point, and a dating site is a good way to meet lots of people and have a bit of flirty fun. But you also need to recognise that the vast majority (as with all people you meet in life) won't be the one for you, and you have to be able to brush that off, accept it and move on. So don't dismiss dating sites out of hand, and when you are ready then give it a go.

But get yourself to a point where you are strong enough to cope with it first, yes totally agree with that sentiment.

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