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mummylou85 · 07/07/2010 12:04

Can I just ask if your a single mum and your child is ill or school holidays, how do you work around it?? can you afford to take the time off? if your bosses understanding. espec if you not got family or father support. just thinking about my situation. I will explain more soon as heading out xxx

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cestlavielife · 07/07/2010 12:31

bring them into work if not too bad....

take time off annnual leave or emergency leave

(see for rights to emergency time off for children under
workingfamilies.org.uk/

ask friends...

panic...

elastamum · 07/07/2010 12:42

I have an au pair wtihout whom I couldnt do the job I do as I travel a fair bit.

I also use kids clubs, try to beg the odd week from my ex or his parents and then take as much time off as I can. I also work from home in the holidays 3 days a week. It a struggle as mine have 8 weeks off from last week but we get by

CubaCat · 07/07/2010 13:42

I'm lucky because if DS is ill and can't go to nursery my parents usually have him. If not I take holiday from work. It'll get harder next year as he starts school in January, so think I'll take most of my annual leave when he's on holiday so my parents don't have to have him the 3 full days that I work every week for 6 weeks.

gillybean2 · 07/07/2010 18:31

I deliberately only work 4 days a week. I'm allowed to be flexible with my hours so if there's a school event (like sports day or inset day) I simply swap my day off around so I can accomodate it.

In the event of time off for illness (not happened very often) I can then make up extra hours by working my day off or extra in the school holidays.

In the school holidays I send my ds to a holiday club. I then work 7 or 8 hours, rather than my usual 4.5 hours a day and bank the extra hours, either to cover extra time off I had in term time, or more usually to have extra days at home in holidays. Working a longer day means I end up paying less over all for child care as they charge per day not per hour.
So usually I send ds to holiday club for 3 days a week, 2 weeks at easter, 2 or 3 weeks in the summer (only 3 days each week) and the rest of the half terms and summer I usually get to have off (give or take a day here and there).

I also get 4 + 1 weeks holiday a year (we get an extra day for each year we work at the company up to 5 days max). Luckily our office is shut between xmas and new year so I have to save some of my holiday for that but never have to feel guilty not coming in then or worrying it'll be my year to come in, as holiday club is shut too so wouldn't have any childcare then.

I have also been able to send my ds away on a DoIt4Real holiday now he is old enough. He gets a week away for a really low price (I qualify for their cheapest price as I get WTC & CTC). At the moment I work extra hours that time and it's cheaper than the child care costs. Am hoping that I'll be able to have a few days short break myself when he's away next year maybe. Hopefully!

It is tough, and I have had to take him into work before when I've had to work extra overtime at weekends in january (our busiest time). And I don't have many friends I can call on, but I do make sure I always have his friends over as often as I can so I don't feel too bad if I have no choice but to ask someone to help me out if I have to stay at work late or go on a course for example.

AMAZINWOMAN · 07/07/2010 22:07

I have to save annual leave just for this as I'm a widow, plus I have no family support. I have absolutley nobody in the world i can ask in an emergency.

I am not allowed to bring them into work for insurnace reasons.

I refuse late hours etc which has really impacted on my career, but at the moment, my family is my prioity.

I work really, really hard for my contracted hours, but dont do anything extra.

mummylou85 · 09/07/2010 12:41

not all areas do holidays clubs and schemes. but thank you for answers. would love more advice. aint it expensive though by time you pay all child minders and clubs. is it worth working? obviously you got too but life would be so much easier with job in school hours. I would feel so guiltysending my daughter to clubs all the time. it is really hard.
my daughter is 4 and I am 30 weeks preg but I am trying get a plan for the future x

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gillybean2 · 10/07/2010 10:36

I used to work 3 long days and send my ds to child minder. As I have a considerable commute to work (an hour each way) it was cheaper to put ds with the childmider after school (which is subsidised on WTC & CTC) than my petrol costs were!

However when she gave up childminding after less than a year there were no options as no other childminders in my area.

I had to go to my boss and ask to reduce hours, work over 4 days to manage the hours, and do the school pick up myself every day. So I was doing an extra days travelling (petrol costs & parking).

It has benefits in that I don't rely on anyone else, I get to do homework with ds so it actually gets done, and spending that time with him has been so much better for us both I feel. He can have friends over after school now too.

As to holiday clubs, you're right. I have to drive my ds about 10 mins further than where I work (an hour away) to get him to a holiday club. And that is only open at easter and 4 week in the summer.
There used to be a brilliant club open about 15 mins in a different direction past work which was open every holiday, half term, over xmas too as well as doing a breakfast and asfter school club for lots of local schools with pick ups.
But that closed last year as the school they rented decided to whack up their rental and they couldn't justify cost to parents.
Said school then started their own breakfast and afetr school club for children at their school only, but no holiday club at all!

Has been a nightmare to find a decent holiday club since. There are others, but they mostly involve sitting about doing jigsaws and watching tv. My ds is used to lots of activities being laid on (go-karts, quad bikes, sports coaches, swimming as well as the usual activities).

Yes it is pricey. At around £25-35 a day. But some do special 'buy one week get another free' type deals. Also as I can get up to 80% of it back it's actually costing me £5-£7 for a whole day. Which is amazing value really. That said I pay out over £1000 a year in holiday club costs, which costs me £200. Doesn't seem like a lot, but that's £200 I don't get to spend on other stuff.

So yes, you may well have to drive some way to find one, but a good holiday club is worth its weight in gold ime. Definitely look further afield and be prepared to travel.
Ask people at your work what clubs they use/used. Both the clubs I use came on recommendation from a colleague who had sent her ds to them over many years, so I knew they were well established as well as fun.

mummylou85 · 16/07/2010 12:15

thank you, i wish I could drive now

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cestlavielife · 16/07/2010 12:44

mummylou85 unless you have a medical condition which emans you prohibited then learn to drive...you may be able to get a grant of funding for this - ask at job centre

also family fund

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