Omg, men are too bloody complicated

[MrsMorgan]

I have been single for 4 yrs. No interest in all that time, and then suddenly, I did somthing (fuck knows what) that changed that.

Unfortunatly I ended up getting invloved with someone unavailable (not quite as bad as it sounds) and got hurt.

Since then, I have had more interest, from a bloke I do fancy, like etc, BUT I am gettin such mixed signals that I cannot keep up.

If it makes you feel any better, I find women are bloddy complicated... so it works both ways. Mind you I'm bad at reading body language so maybe I'm just not responding to the right signals.

Yes to be fair I think both sexes are as bad as each other.

I pretty much say what I mean though, and hate it when other people don't lol.

I too wish people would say what they mean and simply be honest.

We have a sandwich shop round the corner from work, one of the lad's (20 something) goes there regularly. They have a young girl (early twenties I guess) who works there and she apparently really likes him (according to her boss who keeps ribbing him/her about it).
He was tellingt us at the office and I asked him if he liked her and if so he should ask her out maybe. He said he likes how she looks but she's too easy and there's no challange there.

I really don't understand the need for the chase and all the silly games. But then I'm still looking for a man who can be honest, express how he feels without getting insular or aggressive, and isn't into mind games.

Ho hum

MrsMorgan, are you me?

Almost exactly the same situation and I am totally confused, too/

I think we need to start a society for confused single women. Friday mornigs... Starbucks or Costa?

What's been happening anyway? Can we assist you? More to the point, Can Nannynick assist you? He might understand some of it!

gillybean, that's a ridiculous thing for him to say! "She's too easy, there's no challenge" - what does he think he is, an alpha ape??

He's either so far up his own arse that she's better off without him, or he's actually too crap to do anything about it in which case she's better off without him.
(there's a trend there... )

Can't you just drop a hint in her ear that she's wasting her time, poor girl?

Could be worse. He could have simply gone out with her using the fact she likes him to sleep with her.

At least he has the courage to tell the truth. Fair play to him.

He sounds very immature gillybean.

I think I might well be you FA, our love lives seem scarily similar atm lol.

Anyhow, things have now slightly moved on, and the bloke in question is now staying over on Friday, apparently just for a cuddle (whole other thread lol).

Will see what happens after that, if anything.

Sorry to hijack your thread but I've been single a while and I'm wondering if this 'exclusive' American stuff has filtered down on to the mean streets of Britain. I see on shows like 30 Rock and so on, women think they are in a relationship and then the guy turns 'round (after they've slept with them) and says 'we weren't exclusive'. I don't get this. I would never sleep with anybody if they were going to sleep with somebody else the following night. Is this considered normal now? The more I think about dating the more I think staying single is the only option!!

Tbh valium, I am really not the best person to ask about that. I was single for 4yrs before I got even the tinest of interest from a bloke.

I do think that you might be right though. I was amazed at the amount of men who had either wives or gf's, that were quite willing to have a fling with me. Even blokes who's wives were friends of mine tried it on.

Mrs morgan- im having the same problems as you i think. im so new to this dating lark that i dont know if im getting mixed messages or im just so blooming clueless and everythings ok!!!

Is there a manual somewhere??

Men are a waste of space god know's why we bother.

lol

It's not limited to one sex or the other.