Dating??? do or don't

[clairelc16]

As a lone parent, what do you do about dating? I am currently single but have friends who think that you should be ina realtionship? i think in some ways its better to stay single and I'm happy that way!!

if youre happy being singlethen stay as you are!!, you dont need a man in your life just cos your friends say so, dont be pressured into dating and end up making a bad mistake, in time things will happen if its meant to be, but dont rush into the dating scene if youre really not sure!
Good luck!

i agree with gem2, it's better to be single and happy than in a relationship and miserable because your friends are more comfortable that way. i've had friends slowly drift away because they weren't comfortable with my 'lack' of a relationship and fwiw i now have some real friends

I agree, if you are happy as you are then i dont see a problem.

I have been dating someone for nearly 2 years now but i wont take any step further (moving in together or even to same town, we live 30 miles apart) cos we are happy with how things are, we spend one weekend at his and next weekend at mine and it works for us, some of my friends find this weird but you have to do what works for you and not for others, its our lives.

I think part of the problem is getting over to other people that I am happy being single!
In fact I think I'm going to start a new thread called single and happy. Thank you for your responses its nice to know there are other people who feel the same

I'm really glad you're happy being single.

When I broke up with my ex I definitely thought - now its ME time.

But I just want a boyfriend so badly, and everyone I meet just sees me as a potential shag???

Maybe I'm giving out the wrong vibes at this time. Stick with what you feel is right for you.

hi dominique,i used to get theat with datse - they were only after one thing - have now not had a date since feb this year, i neither need a bf or a one-nighter so am concentrating on what i am like iyswim

here here to single happy lives eh!!, i think i would run a mile if a bloke even spoke to me now as been on my own for a few months now with 2 ds (2&5), life with them is great we are free to please ourselves!
Far too many weirdos out there too, how do you know who to trust these days and if they are infact genuine guys, it scares me the thought of dating again, anyone else feel like this or just me and bad experience of past men...........xx

I had that (the questions) after I'd left my x. Literally about 6 months afterwards people were asking me if I'd met somebody yet. The yet irritated me slightly. It was like my single status was some thing broken that needed to be fixed by getting together with somebody.

I have I hope managed to convince my friends that I feel independent and that there is freedom in not looking. I don't want to put myself through dating to be honest!? I want to be kind to myself!

Some people just don't get it though. I find myself feeling a bit smug and superior to people who don't get it though. I know that's bad and I shouldn't admit it. But knowing that if I'm single forever I can deal with it, and it might well be the best thing for me, I slightly pity people who think that life without a man is only half a life.

My sentiments exactly valiumsingleton (loving the name too!), its girl power all the way for me, i feel pretty much the same as you and that i can walk around with my head held high knowing im bringing up my 2 ds pretty much singelhandedly and that i do and provide for all their needs, i work p-time with massive help from my mum, have my own house and car and a very nice lifestyle indeed compared to some with the dreaded m word (men)feel so in control of my life at all times its such a great feeling!!!

It's good to know there are other people out there who get it, even if they're on line. I don't meet enough people who get it in rl.

One friend of mine asked me had it been 'really hard' not having met somebody new (since leaving my x). An innocent question but I felt so misunderstood! It was like wow, so many things have been hard since I left X and before it tbh! but 'not having met somebody new' is not the bit that I zone in on as being what has made things hard!

i have just discarded a 'nice' man because I prefer to be on my own with the dc so i do understand