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holiday with ex?

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MuthaHubbard · 29/06/2010 20:45

xh is taking kids on two weeks holiday. all fine, we are amicably and get on well (sometimes better than we did before)

they are going to dubai - DUBAI!!! and on sunday he said to me that if i wanted to go along, then i could. Free......

now if it was spain, he prob wouldn't have asked and i wouldn't have been bothered.

but it is dubai - holiday of a lifetime (and i've been watching peter andre there)

i at first said to him 'no, don't be daft' but it is one of those places i really want to go to and would probably never get the chance to again. any my dd (7) is desperate for me to go along.....

WWYD?

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MuthaHubbard · 29/06/2010 20:46

apologise for atrocious spelling and to add it would of course be seperate rooms

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DONTtouchMUMMYSpecialJUICE · 29/06/2010 21:33

as long as you have seperate rooms where you can retreat to if you start remembering why he's your ex then go for it. however.. if shared room. i wouldn't. i am amicable with mine. but that would be too close for not wanting to kick him in shins occasionally

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MuthaHubbard · 29/06/2010 22:10

deffo seperate rooms, wouldn't even consider if not. a lot of RL friends have said they would go too, which did surprise me actually.

and can avoid shin kicking for a certain period of time and then when the urge takes, i figured i'd head for room/beach etc.

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mamalovesmojitos · 29/06/2010 23:31

go for it! why not? seperate rooms, trip of a lifetime, an experience shared with your dcs. i would if i got along with xp. very nice for your children to have two parents on holiday together too. just as long as you're sure your xp doesn't have a hidden agenda. enjoy .

SolidGoldBrass · 30/06/2010 01:22

If you are on good terms with him and he is not/was not abusive then why not?

thumbwitch · 30/06/2010 02:29

Yes go! I have a friend who split with her H when he cheated on her but after a year she was able to go on holiday with him and their DS, who was 4 at the time. Separate rooms for sanity purposes - but sounds like it could be good.

Hope he doesn't withdraw the offer again though - tell him asap!

DONTtouchMUMMYSpecialJUICE · 30/06/2010 10:09

have you said yes yet... go... now.. as posted.. before offer is refused. there are some lovely swimwears this year

mumoffourgirls · 30/06/2010 10:12

Go for it my sister went on hols with her ex and their two DS`s and they all had a great time...

shimmerysilverglitter · 30/06/2010 12:05

Oh definitely go.

My ex was a total PITA but we always had a good time on holidays (apart from one extreme exception) so even now would probably consider going on holidays with him and dc.

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MuthaHubbard · 30/06/2010 16:44

right - have said yes!!! all booked, separate room etc.....

he was never abusive but very good at the PITA bit. i wouldn't regret staying at home for a fortnight but would regret saying no i think!!

cheers guys

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overmydeadbody · 30/06/2010 16:47

Mutha it ounds great, if you want to go.

But don't get your hopes up about Dubai, it is not a dream holiday destination by any means. I do apologise if it is somewhere you have always wanted to go to, but I just can't get excited about it as a holiday destination, it's just a rich arab country...

I do hope you have fun though

Magalyxyz · 30/06/2010 18:00

I don't know, will he be with all his family who will feel that they 'own' this time with the children??

Are you a free babysitter? If you are and you're fine with that because of the trade -off (enjoyable days) then fine I guess. I wouldn't do it though.

thumbwitch · 01/07/2010 00:35

WEll done Mutha - have a great time!

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