Arrr not sure what to do - bit out of practice with all of this!!

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I feel like I'm 16 again, and a bit to be even asking really.

Im in my mid 30s, and have been a single parent for the last 4 years. Recently I have met a man through a shared interest. He lives about 100 miles away. We spent several weeks chatting on MSN and texting, and last week he came down to visit and we met for the first time.

I had it in my head that if we liked each other in real life we would start a relationship, although this was never said, and I am quite good at getting the wrong end of the stick

Anyway we had a brilliant day together, got on really well, and I liked him alot, however nothing 'happened'. I was dissapointed but completely 'got' that he may not have felt the same about me, and though we would keep in touch, but nothing more would not come of it.

However from the evening of the day we had met we have been back chatting on MSN (instigated by him), sometimes for several hours aday, texting etc, and today he has driven back here and we have spent the day together. Again we've had a great day together and again nothing more than friendship has happened.

He's not shy, or doesn't appear to be, has lots of friends and is very sociable. I can't imagine him not making a move if he wanted to, but then people would probably say the same about me and I haven't either.

I know I need to say someting, but I don't want to lose our friendship (I really do enjoy his company)embarrass him, or make a fool of myself, but I've got to talk to him haven't I? Please help me put this in perspective. Thanks

Are you being flirty or just friendly?

Perhaps he is thinking the very same thing and maybe you need to be fluttering those eyelashes a bit more.

Come on girl....get it onnnnn

I'd enjoy the friendship and just see what happens

Not proper flirting (not sure I remember how ), but certinally hand casually touching arm/leg, sitting closer than needed, that sort of stuff, nothing more than I would do with a close female friend though, if you see what I mean.

Go on, give a little more, it'll all come flooding back!

Give him time though and don't be too pushy.

I'd make sure at the very least I kissed him goodbye, not just a peck, not a full on snog but inbetweem if you know what I mean.

Hopefully he'll get the message.

Oh yes and enjoy the friendship too.

Gosh, Ive got one like this too and I dont know what to do with him. Calls me regularly, reckon we have spent the equivalent of a couple of days on the phone. Have had 2 dates, both went on for 4-5 hours in a resturant, he insisted on paying, but never more than hug and a peck on the cheek. Have no idea what to do next or whether he is even interested!!
Advice anyone???