Hi just need to vent really and if anyone has any advice.
I just emailed my sons dad as he is still not making any effort with him, i took him to meet him 2mths ago and nothing has changed yet, ive copied the email, thoughts on this please as i now feel a bit guilty and not sure why, think its cos im scared that he might just cut contact all together, well to be honest at the moment its only a few texts here and there.
He wasnt around for the pregnancy but gave me alot of hassle and was aggressive towards the end of pregnancy and now is just not making any effort. He says he wants to be involved but doesnt act on it.
Email I sent to sons dad below -
There is a couple of things that need to be said.
After we met up i really thought things would change but it seems that you are quite happy to just wait for me to make the effort to come and bring Louis to see you again rather than visiting yourself. Will you actually visit us instead as i still havent heard anything from you about it and it is so easy to find on the internet especially after i gave you the websites to look on.
A few texts here and there saying 'how is my son?' is not really what works in this situation, you never use his name and i find it quite insulting as you are not doing anything for him in any way and i am doing everything so when you say 'your son', i think its actually quite comical as you dont contribute in any way at all. Im well aware that i said i didnt want anything from you but i thought you might at least offer something for him.
I thinks its really sad that when i offered you the chance to have more visits with Louis you didnt really give me a answer as to whether you wanted to or not at a contact centre, my father has more of a father relationship with him, taking him swimming, down the beach, playing and making him laugh and seeing all his first things and to be honest he is always there when he says he will be for louis.
You need to think about what kind of role you want in his life because im not just havin a few texts here and there and thinking thats enough, you dont seem to want to know what hes doing so i always keep it short and not much detail and to be honest on fathers day i spent the whole day thinkin about you instead of my dad hoping that it will not be this hard every year on fathers day.
You either want to get to kno him and regularly spend time with him or you dont - simple.
If you do then you need to make that effort too as ive tried so many times and well it shouldnt be this hard to get you to want to see louis
I dont want this to seem harsh but it is how it is and Louis 'your son' deserves better!!