what should i do??

[frazzle26]

My son's father went on deployment with the navy 2 months ago and since then we haven't heard a word. Not an email, phone call or text. With today being fathers day my son got upset as he'd made him a father's day card and obviously couldn't give it to him.

I don't know how to get hold of him as I don't know what his ship's email address is (I do know what ship he's on). TBH, part of me doesn't even really want to get hold of him as I don't think he deserves to speak to my son after he hasn't bothered with him for 2 months. However, our son is starting to get upset now which is why i'm thinking that maybe i should make the 1st move.

What do people think??

for your son.
i think that if you try then you can always look your ds in the eye and say you did your best for him.
my ds' father will not see him, and i did my best to promote their relationship. the fallout has been horrible for my ds. he feels abandoned
how old is your son? maybe you could explain you don't have contact details and can put the card in a safe place for when/if you are able to pass on the card

Yes, I think let him make the card. Even post it to... 'daddy on the ship' or something so he feels a part of fathers day.

How heart breaking for you I am sorry, For you and your son.

It must be extremly hard for this man to go to war and not actually know whether he is going to come home - perhaps contact is strianed incase he doesn't come home? and in his own way he thinks this maybe easier for your ds

Thanks for that. DS is 7. I have kept the card safely for now in my room. This really is breaking my heart though because my son loves his father so much and I hate to see him being treated like this. I don't understand why my ex is ignoring him like this. I always knew he wasn't a particularly nice person but this is sinking to new lows even for him