why is my child worth £5 a week?

[Bongobaby]

i,m at my wits end with the csa. xp pays stupid amount of £5 child support.cos he,s skint,spiteful and doesn,t want to take responsibility for our child. he,s not skint just wants to be in control. why does the government let these feckless dads get away with it?anybody in their right mind knows it takes alot more than £5 a week for a child to live on.jesus christ if we as mums let our kids live on just that £5 a week.the kids wouldn,t be alive to tell the tale. they would starve to death. its called neglect. if a mum done it we would end up in prison. so why blatenly is a father allowed to get away with neglect over and over.its time this national scandle was brought to the attention of government. and then maybe our benefits system won,t be so high.because as single mums.don,t believe thats our title either. we are sperated parents. meaning the onus is on both parents.we have no choice but to rely on the state.because the state does sweet F.A to secure proper father payments for our kids.cars pay more to enter the congestion charge each day £8 than fathers pay for their kids of £5 a week. wheres the sense/priority in that david cameron??

Men eh

Bunch of barstewards

Chochohknob

dc dad has just sold his small car and brought a bigger one as in his words he needs it for the new baby yet for last 3 years he claimed could not afford bigger car so could not take dc out as could not get ds3 wheelchair in

Mind not that he has bothered seeing dc last 6 months plus I'm another one that had to provide money for food when he saw the dc he took them out one day all they had was packet of crips a day as reckoned can't afford it

But heave ho out with his old d. Including I. There words the retard and in with there new baby

Sorry PP, I'm unsure why you included my name in your post. I never said all NRPs were good.

And as for the comment in another post regarding the CSA only caring about the fathers, that's an example where that particular NRP is abusing the system. That is not the norm. And there so so many NRPs in real financial difficulties due to the CSA making errors and demanding money off of them they simply cannot afford. The CSA are definitely not pro-fathers, or pro-mothers for that matter. Both are treated appallingly by them in some instances.

I just had to comment on Shirley
Knots post.

5p a year? Whoever the judge was that ordered that is a complete & total joke of a shithead!

I'd go to the papers with that one too.

Although, now that Cameron's in power it's all going to get worse for mothers. Abolish the maternity grant, freeze child support for 3 years before reducing it & getting rid of child tax credits. There's talk of him giving fathers more rights whilst having to pay even less cild support. Cameron is a silly t* & somebody who truly turns my stomach. Targeting the elderly & the pregnant women/single mothers. Arsehole.

Sorry, didn't mean to get political but like I said, 5p a year? What a farce!

i used to get 2.37p per week for my dd from ex bf

Tell me why some fathers get away with everything ! Can anyone give me any tips please !

Basically I have a 12 year old Son who I have never received a penny from his father as for some reason according to the CSA he has never worked although he is a builder and know he is going by his flash clothes he wears. This doesnt bother me just disgusts me and proud to say I have done everything for my Son and worked full time up until the last 12 months when I had a breakdown at work due to difficulties with my Son and the lack of help through the Education System. I had suspected he had Autism and have finally managed to get the right help put into place after him being diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome.

My ex husband has never been to a parents evening,school play,plays no part in his life and basically keeps dragging me to Court for contact. Why does the penny not drop that I have never stopped my Son from seeing his father, me and my son have enough to deal with on a daily basis with his Autism without disrespecting his father. It is just that he does nothing that a father should and my Son cant be bothered basically.

I have just had to do a report for my Solicitor On Aspergers for her to pass on to to his solicitor for his use !

The Courts arent interested that he pays nothing towards his upkeep Its a total disgrace. I am due to go back to work next month and guess what ! As well as feeding, clothing, keeping my child with a roof over his head will be expected to pay tons of Court costs while yes, he gets legal aid and dont have to pay a penny !angry

no contact and finance are completely separate.

i dont get it tho - if you not stopping contact why isnt it happening?

I think the best advice my Mum ever gave me (apart from "Don't argue with lorries" is "Never depend on a Man".

Not only does my ex not pay a penny(he never has) but I have the additional luxury of repaying a loan he took out fraudently in joint names shortly before his death from lifestyle choices. As we were divorced when he died his kids got everything, mine got nothing as he is not named on the birth certificate.

I actually think nothing is better than being awarded £1.20 a week.

Bastard may he rot in hell.

Id just like to put my experience in, My DP and his EX had a formal agreement inplace where he paid his ex substancially more every month than what CSA said he should pay. His DD lived with him 45% of the time and the money went straight into her account, CSA were informed of this back in 2005. If it had gone through CSA in 2005 he would only have to pay her £5 due to the amount of time DD stayed with him.

His lovely ex stopped contact last june 2009 becuase she got married and decided her DD didnt need 2 days only her Step-dad and 15days after she was issued court proceedings my DP received a letter from CSA taking him to court for not paying maintenance since 2005.

She has quite literally shot herself in the foot now, as all payments go through CSA and he pays £10 per week to her.

Not all Dads are bad.. and its a shame that topics like this end up being all men all dads etc

If she hadnt lied she would still be getting a lot more than that.

in addition as resident parent you receive £20 pw for your child in the form of CB. plus the (admittedly) small amount of £5 from ex, plus the amount that you pay yourself, as resident parent... Plus any credits.

I am res dad of 5 and the none res mother only pays a pound a week per child.

Your child needs both parents to contribute. Why would you put the "worth" that is the amount that your dc father pays via csa on to your child?

If you are talking about financial
worth then add your contribution.

"what goes around, comes around"

I had to fight for 4 years to get maintenance payments from x. He appealed against back payments, meaning that I had to attend court, but lost as he didn?t turn up on the day. That alone, and the total lack of concern for ds? well being was bad enough but making me go through that experience to then not have the guts to make an appearance was utterly unbelievable.

However, what I am trying to get to is that up to that point, I had to see him driving a nice car, going on holidays, buying himself nice clothes and going surfing all the time ? and the sad loser made a point of boasting about all of this to ds! I will never forget the time when I lost my cool with him over him forgetting to call ds when he said he was going to (I was trying to encourage some consistency, how naïve!) and he told me that I was just a bitter cow and that I envied him having his own house (we were renting at the time), a car fully paid off, etc. I couldn?t believe it. He saw no issue with making no contribution towards ds? upkeep as long as he had money to lead a comfortable life. It still hurts when I think of it, not for me though but for ds, for having a dad who obviously loves him so little. Nobody deserves that. Eventually, things started to go wrong for him (and as always, it was somebody else?s fault): he broke up with his fiancé, he had job issues, he ruined the car for lack of proper servicing etc. He now rents a room in somebody else?s house, has no car at all and the maintenance gets collected straight from his wages.

We are by no means swimming in money, quite on the contrary, but I?ve worked incredibly hard for what we do have (not necessarily on the material front) meaning that what I have built (or we have built as ds and I are a team!) stands on very solid foundations and not at somebody else?s expense or as a result of neglecting my very basic responsibilities as a parent.

So hang in there, it may take a while but you will see that you will be the one standing strong and you will have your child /children?s respect which is priceless!

to be honest over the years he has let my Son down not turning up when he should, one time he dissappeared without any explanantion for 7 weeks. Apparently he went to South Africa to visit family! The problem he doesnt want to go now is that hes getting older and refuses when he has contact to do anything with him. He has never wanted to know if he was ill, in the 12 years hes been to his school once (and that was only because his solicitor advised him to) I could have literally had a bed in my Sons School I am there so often because of his autism and learning difficulties. He basically plays no part in his life. I would like to emphasise that I have or would not stop contact, I have made it perfecly clear to my Son and try to encourage him, but its very hard when his father hasnt bothered to be there for him on any scale.

Dont get me wrong, were really happy but sometimes I just get so frustrated by the fact that he just fails to understand why his Son isnt that fussed about him. I dont know how he sleeps at night or have the cheek that he does. He simply disgusts me.