anyone else have a preschooler and a newborn on theier own?

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im just wondering how you cope. im constantly worrying about finances, finding work and Dcs seeing their fathers amongst the other things.
with that and sleepless nights i feel that im at breaking point most mornings and wonder how long i can just carry on.
tips for making life easier? job advice? anyone who has been here befroe and come out the other end sain?

My Dh (armed forces) went off to the gulf for 8 m when dd was 5wks and ds was preschool.
DD was and still is a crap sleeper and I have no friends or family - no support. But I got through it - infact I actually found the hardest when dd was 2 and ds 6 and Dh went off to the gulf again for 8m .

Anyway how did I cope ? Lowered my standards in the housework dep lol - used asda/tesco deliveries, go out for walks so keep me sane and sometimes nap when ds at nursery and dd asleep .

Ok I know my situation is a bit different and yours is more permament but you will get used to it and things will change as time goes on. Just dont be hard on your self and stay positve.
Just tackle one thing at a time in terms of money and jobs etc.

I was on my own with a 4 month old and a 3 year old. I had no family nearby, and an abusive ex to deal with. I totally agree with liberty - you have to go back to basics (actually I still do this when they are ill), only do essential chores. Get out the house when you feel like you are going to explode with the pressure of the situation. Find local free and cheap mums and toddler groups/soft play sessions. Be kind to yourself, you really are doing the best you can and that's enough. Things do get easier as they grow. The challenges become less physical (ie nappy changing, bottle washing, picking up toys etc) and more mental (dealing with disagreements, encouraging them to be kind to each other etc)
I remember the 'cant take any more' times. You will get through it. Try to take one day at a time and enjoy the day for the good stuff that happens (I was so desperate not to wish their childhoods away!)I don't work at the mo, although I do some voluntary stuff to pave the way for employment, so can't comment on that, but hope to work when youngest goes to school fulltime.