oh YES! I have just received a brown envelope through the door........

[toccatanfudge]

it's the official divorce petition from the court

(mind you I noticed the twat was at the solicitors signing the damn thing on his DS3's 3rd birthday........guess that's why he could only spare 5 minutes to see him.........)

It's on grounds of unreasonable behaviour - does - nothing on it I want to contest - I don't give a shit just want out - does anyone know how long it should take after sending it back???

6 weeks for me!!

well done

oh he's filed for it (I told him straight out that I couldn't be arsed with faffing around with solicitors and getting the peition drawn up - I was the one that had the guts to say "hey you don't actually want this anymore do you" - so I told him I wasn't taking full whack of blame for it.

And no - I'm not contesting anything in there even though the "unreasonable behaviour" he's put down is a load of bollox (well some of it has a little truth to it - but my unreasonable behaviour doesn't come anywhere close to his unreasonable behaviour )

No money to sort - he's on the verge of being made bankrupt, the family home (which he's now living in) has massive mortgage arrears and in huge negative equity - too much work to be done on it - he's welcome to it and I'm skint (but not in debt like he is LOL).

Access - well he's being an arse about actually seeing them, but it's all agreed iykwim.

Think I'm going to do it myself.

weeks rather than months - ooo that's good fingers crossed hey

sorry x posts with you tiffany - 6 weeks - wow that's quick.

oh no,sorry....that was from nisi to absolute,or is it other way round??

lol,anyway,the ball is rolling

yes the ball is rolling

Congratulations that the ball is rolling.

From the little I've read I've got one or two concerns to make sure that you're covering your own back.

Is the house in a joint name? Is the morgage in a joint name? Are any of the utilities still in a joint name?

Can you prove the debt is post formal separation and are you financially legally separated?

You don't want him to declare himself bankrupt before divorce and inherit all the debt and be chased by debt collectors as a softer target.

House is in his name. Mortgage in his name. None of the utilites in joint name.

We've never had shared accounts, amazingly after 10yrs together I was quite pleasantly surprised to find that our credit files hadn't been officially linked.

The debts have been there years, but I've not had a single letter/phone call/refusal of credit.

He won't declare himself bankrupt before divorce, he doesn't want to declare himself bankrupt - believes he can get himself out of the sorry mess he's in. (and I suppose if miraculously he found a semi decent paid job and stopped frittering his money away on crap then he could do - and if he does that and clears the mortgage arrears then quite frankly I think he deserves to have the house as it would be a bleeeding miracle ).

He's an arse, but not that much of an arse that he would try and pass any of the debt onto me.

Then am just pleased for you. You're more switched on than I was.

thanks.

TAF you always were too good for him!

besides - he knows his own family would chew him up and spit him out if he tried to saddle m e with any of his debt........SIL2 had a big enough go at him on Friday night just over him not seeing the boys, there would be serious dynamite thrown from them if he tried to lumber me with that lot

lol Chip