Give me a lecture, I have my head in the clouds about one day having a happy ever after brady bunch step family set up

[Meglet]

I don't even have a partner, and the chances of getting one for a few years are slim to no-existent.

But it would be lovely to have another adult to talk to and be a 'family' again.

you'd have to share that Galaxy tho
maybe with someone who cuts their toenails on the sofa

and they fart and aren't housetrained to your standards just create more work

LOL and you never ever fart CarGirl eh?

Meglet, if you want a lecture then here you go:

Life is what YOU make of it. Mr Right won't come knocking on your door. You have to go out and grab life by the proverbial bollocks.

I split up with the ex a couple of years ago now. Virtually all my friends were married or in relationships. I could have just sat there and wallowed.

But instead I took a long hard look at myself and made changes where I felt they were needed. So for example I changed the way I dressed. I was very much man about Tesco's before but trendied myself up with the help of some female friends. I went on my first ever diet to shed the old beer belly and did some running too.

Then after some time I hit the dating scene. I've tried pretty much everything! Internet dating, speeddating, bars/clubs. At one point I was dating 4 women at the same time.

I'm now living with the most patient, most beautiful woman. Ironically I didn't meet her via any of the above methods but had I have not had the experience I gleaned from all that time, there's no way I would have had to confidence to pull her.

So my point is that yes it can happen but it will take some time and a lot of effort on your part. Even if it doesn't happen, at least it you will have fun!

That cheered me up, glad Im not the only sad sack out there. Am also sick of my sofa and the tv! Have signed up to internet dating this week and am absolutely terrified every time i turn on the computer! Needed to be done though.

Come and join me!

thank you niceguy .

I've never dated, I can't think of anything worse. Blokes do not like me one bit.

Can we set up a huge mansion for lone parents and all live happily ever after .

I feel just like you meglet!! Haven't got any constructive advice, just thought i'd sympathise : )

The question then is Meglet....why not?

If you are serious about finding someone then you need to know why.

For me, it was the way i dressed (cheap & bad) & attitude. Niceguy's finish last! So no more Mr Nice Guy and it worked!

niceguy2´s post reminded me of this

I am too nice I think. Maybe I need to wait for blokes of my age to mellow out.

I dress very well thank you . Mind you, when I get the odd hour to myself I head to the gym where I am hardly going to meet anyone. I don't get to go out in the evenings ever which rather limits the chances of meeting someone.

I will wait until the dc's are at school then re-consider! Might have more time on my hands by then.

Great link Maveta. Had a quick read and I was nodding at some of the posts there. Ironic really given women are always saying "I wish I could meet a nice man" that they actually don't want one who's too nice!

Meglet, i wasn't suggesting your problem is your dress sense! That was my issue! lol

So if you are going to the gym then chances are you are not overweight (that does help!) So sounds to me your main problem is childcare. Opportunity is an easy one to fix.

Is there no friend/relative who could babysit the odd night? Do they ever go to their dad's?